When Scorpio Man Falls in Love-Experience
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This hub comes from my personal experience. I am a Scorpio man and I have always been wondering “how is a normal Scorpio man in love and when it comes to expressing love to someone”? Most of us know the general characteristics of a Scorpio man when he is in love. Some of these traits are possessiveness, jealousy and controlling behavior. However, I am not sure if “shy” is one of the traits. Here are some of my experiences as a Scorpio guy.
But first, a general introduction of a Scorpio guy through the eyes of a Scorpio.
Scorpio man
The Scorpio guy is not your average Joe. He is silent outside, but has a very vast and deep ocean of emotions inside. If you see a guy at a party sitting in the corner observing everything without talking, he probably is your Scorpio man. Not that he is antisocial; he just likes his privacy even in a social setting like a party. At the same time, you may even find a Scorpio guy to be very social (I am one of them). If you really want to spot a Scorpio guy, talk to a guy about anything occult and wait for his reaction. You will immediately know whether he is a Scorpio or not. Most of the Scorpios I have met have strong beliefs (positive or negative) and are passionate at expressing them.
In fact, a Scorpio male has at least some basic knowledge and has strong feelings about most of the subjects under the sun. Another way to identify a Scorpio is to look deep into his eyes. As the cliché goes, most probably you will feel like you are being stripped naked by him. Else, chances are that you may even get extremely attracted to him. Being a Scorpio myself, I have got both of these from my friends, the girls I have dated and my female colleagues.
For more details a Scorpio male's personality, do go through my blog at
http://karthikkash.hubpages.com/hub/Scorpio-Male-Personality
Scorpio man in love
There are various contentions here about how a Scorpio guy behaves when he is in love. One thing to know for sure is that he may be flirting with you, but he may not have any feelings for you. I, for one, openly flirt with many girls, but I make it quite clear to them that it doesn’t mean anything other than we are good friends. It is said that Scorpio guys do not fall in love easily, unless the girl has some mystery around her. I can definitely vouch for that. I haven’t fallen for a girl till now if she has not got an aura of either feminineness or power, and mystery around her. But what happens if he falls in love? How does he behave then?
Again from my personal experience, once the guy falls for a girl, there is no returning. He falls for her and he falls hard. The first thing I noticed is that he starts going out of his way to do things for her. Now, this may be a general characteristic of most of the male species in the animal kingdom in order to attract the female. However, the second thing is not done by most of them. Once he is in love, he starts becoming possessive about her.
He slowly starts weaving his net around her like a spider. If he sees that the game is a bit more challenging than he thought, he may even start becoming manipulative in order to make sure that she belongs to him. The bottom-line is that he can go to any extent to make sure she belongs to him and stays his forever.
How does he express love?
Now, the biggest question is this. How does he express love to the woman he likes? Frankly speaking, this is the toughest question for me as I still do not have one single answer for this. Why is it so? I am not sure if it is just me or it is the normal case with most Scorpio men. I am kind of shy and though I have dated many girls in my life, I have expressed love only to a couple of them. It was not because I didn’t like some of the others. It was just because I was probably either too shy in expressing it or a bit too slow.
I am sure that many Scorpio men fall into two categories when expressing love. One kind finds it too hard to express their love and the second kind just goes for it. I fall into the first category. Frankly speaking, I don’t know why. One reason maybe that, Scorpios don’t like losing anything. Call them selfish, but if they like something, they start thinking that it belongs to them. This however, should not be taken in a negative way. It is simply that he knows what kind of woman he wants and when he finds one, he cannot afford to lose her.
Another thing is that for Scorpios, most things in their life are games and battles they should win at any cost. They just cannot afford to lose. It may be said that, if the girl says no, it is a defeat for the Scorpio ego, which is difficult to handle. Remember, I told you that a Scorpio man does not fall in love easily?
These are some things a person may notice about a Scorpio male in love, from my personal experience. Do let me know what other Scorpios or someone who has an experience with a Scorpio male thinks about this.
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very true Nicole. A Scorpio is the most difficulty specie to decipher... Don't worry, most of the times a Scorpio's actions say whether he likes you or not, than his words. Also, if he is with you, even if hasn't told you, I am sure you will always be on his mind. Do go through my other hub. It may help you in understanding your Scorpio guy a bit more.
All the best :)
I'm a scorpio male and just broke up with someone.She thought I wasn't as involved as I should have been.She would tell me that I did not care,There was no love,or that I was to moody.But the thing is I was all of those thing's just not moody and I didn't know how to show or tell her that.Being a scorpio male is'int as easy as one mite think.It has given me grate thing's and taken a lot away.Even now I'm not giving away very much of myself,anyway I hope this little insight help's you guy's.
thanks for sharing your experience scorpio1096. I exactly understand how it feels like being born as a Scorpio. I always keep saying this to myself and a few other Scorpio friends that our gift is sometimes our curse. People sometimes think that we are powerful and strong. But it is not at all easy to be born as a Scorpio guy.
i agree with this blog/post. i have problems telling women how i feel because i have a strong fear of rejection. especially if i really love that woman and dont want to loose her. i also am secretive and very vengeful though it takes quite abit for me to get there, so yes we are vindictive but only if you really mess up and how developed the scorpio/eagle/pheonix is.and to nicole, if he still keeps you around than you are some one he can see himself with, just dont toy with his emotions, or try to figure him out too quickly.
thanks for contributing jester1187 :) the one piece of advice you gave really helps many people :)
hi Karthik..... i am a scorpio male. Everything you said here was true, i lost my love just because i was finding difficult to express my love to her but i really loved her. From my personal experience when i make eye contact with girls they feel uncomfortable and they start to adjust their dress but really i was not looking at them in wrong way. Another fact that i am able to sense/know the intentions of people who talk to me, from eye contacts, from their body gesture etc. I can sense both good and bad intentions of people at a short interval of time. All this was possible because of being Scorpio.
Hi Ram,
Thanks for sharing. Yes, I agree with you. I've got many complaints (indirectly) from women that I give them a look that freaks them out or makes them so uncomfortable. I used to wonder why, but then I realized that it was my inborn trait that I could read people with a stare :)
Scorpio male here. I showed this to my wife and she says it is so true, especially the part about a Scorpio male does not fall in love easily. She freely admits that she chased me for 3 years until I got the thought in my mind that we should get married.
haha.. Thank you so much for sharing that FreddyM :) It's been two years since I fell in love with someone after I broke up with my previous girl. And it is only recently that I asked someone out.
I find a lot of this is true for myself as well. It takes me forever to get over a past lover!
My boyfriend is a Scorpio. It's like pulling teeth. I'm just sayin.'
If due to family/cultural/social pressures... family forces Scorpio man to either choose family and arranged marriage with their mom's choice, or to be disowned by parents... how will Scorp man choose... leave family to be with the one they love, or leave the one they love to stay with family and enter loveless marriage to "repay mother's milk"...? How do you feel Scorp man will handle such a situation? As a fellow Scorp, what do you think would be best for him and happiness in life?
Sarah: I understand it.. Life with a Scorpio guy is challenging and exciting, and never easy :)
Gem Sun: I don't know the background. It is a really tough call. It is extremely hard to know what he would do unless till he does that. From a Scorpio's opinion, he would give it a very serious thought before taking any decision, whether to go with family traditions or love. One thing for sure, whatever decision he takes, there will be a lot of thought that goes behind that decision. Most Scorpios have strong belief systems about cultural and social norms. They are either strong believers of that or they don't care, very rarely in between. Having said that, you will be a better judge as you may know that person better. However emotional we are, we seldom take any decision without reason.. I sincerely hope things work out well. All the best !!
I have been dating a Scorpio man for 4 months now. I am completely clueless about his feelings for me sometimes. I am afraid to fall for him if he isn't going to fall for me. I am glad to read that he may just be holding his feelings in. I really hope that he does fall for me so I can actually feel real love for the first time in my life.
Thanks for sharing ConfusedOne. One tip is that if you really like him and you think you want to take it further, just ask him. It is indeed difficult to know what is on his mind unless you ask him. I wish you all the best :)
I had a scorpio male find me after 22 years saying that he has always been smitten with me. He said and wrote many very sweet things to me then, poof, he disappeared, with no explanation at all. When I wrote him to ask why he hurt me, he just responded, "Don't be hurt, please..." I haven't heard from him since. Any insight on this type of behaviour would be appreciated?
as a Scorpio FEMALE.. I have to say alot of this is true about the women in this sign as well..
Hi. Well, I have been after this Scorp guy for a year. Being an aqua, My priority was always to make our friendship perfect and since we aren't too compatible, had to work really hard over a year, to make everything better. There were all kinda problem, still I had always loved him and he too never let me go. But he says that he don't like me and will never do. But he knows that I am waiting
He doesn't let me finish our friendship too but still tries spending all his time with me, as in wants to know what all i have been doing, with whom I talk etc etc. And ya, we both trust each other a lot. This I know. But he would never ever meet too.
I feel he is taking his time, not that I am also in hurry. I too just want him as my best friend, but then he says that I am not in the circle if his close friends, and I feel really bad.
Lord! It is so complicated.
But I love Him a lot. :)
What yu reckon? Should I keep waiting or should I take his words and forget about it all?
does he mean it when he says he wil never love me or is he just testing me?
I'm dating a Scorpio guys more than 10yrs older. we've been at it for about 6 mths now. he text me almost everyday, even when he is out of town for a week plus. well none of us said anything about love but we behave like a couple when we are out or at his place.
thing about him is, he appears to sound needy if say, he ask to meet him and i can't make it. saying i ignore him. but obviously it wasnt my intention. im almost always available when he wants to see me. i dont usually initiate texting but he does.
im apprehensive about this whole thing. if i go on any longer, i might fall in love with him. the right thing to do, i know, is to talk abt it - ask him what are we. but i dont wish to sound desperate. i just dont wish to find out i've been used (tho he tells me more things abt his life than i do). i once told myself, 6 mths is the limit and i will stop this thing. but 6 mths is here and im beginning to tell myself, maybe its a scorpio thing.. give him time and he will come to be sure of what he wants.
so as a scorpio, what do you think. he's sweet to me. he cooks for me if i haven't had dinner. always text me to ask where am i - by now, i've come to realise asking where am i doesnt mean he wants to meet me haha.
oh well.. time will tell but there has to come a point things are clearly defined, isnt it?
i have a bestfriend and he is a scorpio guy. i dont know if he loves me or not but if we were together we are like lovers. i love him but id ont know if he feels the same way. He has a girlfriend now and i have a boyfriend too.
Pls help..
I work with a scorp, long distance, I consider him a friend though we haven't met, that happens in 4 weeks, we play games on our iPhones, we convo on text after hours, we talk on the phone at work for hours about non work stuff, he overwhelms me with questions, he's made cute comments such as 'you make me look good' regarding work, and there are times he turns it all off. I'm a Capricorn, quite cautious of out meet in a few weeks, i believe he's also in a relationship, I'm not pursuing him romantically but not knowing what he is thinking can be distracting at work
I am a scorpio moon n my prob is i vl rather die of love then to tell a person that i like him .Though through close observation of my body language its apparent because i hide my feelings very well.
But its not that i will leave that guy if i am truly into him no matter how many subtle games i have to play i will get him . The thing that turns me on most is eye contact and loyalty . A flirt better not approach me .
Hi scorangel, though I am not very much into compatibility related stuff, they say an Aquarius and Scorpio is a very difficult pair (not to put you off). It is very difficult to understand what a Scorpio man thinks. But at this point, I think it is best to give him his space. If he really misses you and he wants to take it further. Else, there is no point in pursuing it further. It is very difficult to force a Scorpio into doing what he/she doesn't want to do.
bewhary: Thank you for sharing :)
Sasha: I think you already know the answer. If you both are happy in your own relationships, I think it is best to leave it that.
Michelle: I think it is too early to jump into conclusion. It may be that he may be treating you just as a friend though he has a soft corner for you. Personally, I have a few very good friends who are girls, but I would not take the relationship further. So, wait till you start receiving any other signals from him. If he starts liking you more than a friend, it will become evident to you through his actions.
Anne: You are a Scorpio moon? I am a Pisces moon. I think we should meet up ;)
So ive known this scorpio for like a month now.. i just cant get him out of my head!.. he is 2 years younger to me and i just hope that is not a turn off for him!.. in the begining he was sooo into me, texting me constantly and asking about me.. and now its like he goes days without speaking to me.. we dont know much about one another apart from the fact that we study in the same area. I want to get to know more about him, but i cant seem to get him to ask me for a day out.!!?? ive also known that hes been single for like 1 year now and me being a divorced woman dont know how to tell him! im scared what if him finding out about my marriage which only lasted 3months be a turn off??!! he has asked about my past though and i cant tell him about it just yet seeing as i want to be certain whether hes in it for the long haul! please HELP!! how do i know how he feels about me?? and how can i tell him about my past..(that being the main issue.. dont want him to find that offputting)... me being a taurus woman and him being a scorpio man, i have no idea how to confront him... also when im around him i gooo completely blank!! have no words to say... HEELLLPPP...( i am 20year old taurus female!)
I've been dating a scorpio male going on 9 months now. I'm an aries female so its been very interesting. I've fell for him early on and vs. Even tho I'm more open with my feelings and expressing them freely than he is. Which over time I've learned to accept the fact that he shows his feelings towards me thru his actions becuz to him it speaks louder than words and it works for us. A lot of times he'll express himself to me when I don't put any pressure on him or bring it up. But this journey has been a beautiful joyous rollercoaster. We compliment each other in ways that's shocking sometimes it seems like he's a psychic. But my advice to people who are confused with this unpredicatable sign..just have patience and pay attention to his actions not the words becuz a scorpio is one of the few men that I've dated and kept it real with me. Anything you need to know from your scorpio mate just ask. At the same time, I like to play my position and lay low and let my mate take the wheel. As long as you do that over time everything will make sense. I hope this helps!
@Taurus n my opinion you mst try and become his vry good frnd . I thnk he was interested in you because if we are interested in some one we ask them lots of ques And expect honest answers because we are the detective of the zodiac we will cross check it and find all that we can about you . Julian assange is a stellium in scorpio . If you cannot answer any que better be quiet this intrigues us .i have no doubt he already knows quite a lot abt you . Give him hints that you like him . Show yourself to be an honest truthful loyal self esteemed girl of vry strong character these are turn ons for us . Age is not n issue atleast for me till the girl looks feminine and young .Hope this helps n you get you guy . God bless you .
a scorpio man has been in/out of my life for 5 years. we've never been physical but when he's around he calls/texts/sees me etc. borderline obsessive behavior (which i kind of love) the relationship never goes further than a friendship even tho he tells me he likes me and wants things to progress. just when things seem like they're going well, he disappears. my mind tells me to write him off, but i can't help feeling what i do for him. just another one of those magnetic scorpios.
thanks for sharing sintnik, Scorp and Sagfemale :)
On a side note Sagfemale, I would suggest you to be really firm with him about what you want. Otherwise, he may continue to play with him for a long time. Of course, you don't need to wait for him to make the first move. We love to be chased and most of us won't mind being asked out than the other way.
Thanks @karthikkash! i think i'm just apprehensive because we've done this "run around" a few times and I almost feel stupid putting in effort bc im afraid of being too invested. i told him back in march '11 to basically stop calling me because what he said & what he did didnt match up. i told him my feelings were hurt bc i liked him and i felt like he was not being real with me. hes dated other ppl throughout the yrs but never me. i should see the writing on the wall i suppose. :/
I am an aqua female and met a scorpio guy 4 months back at work. He has a strong personality and is not like other boys i'v seen till now. He overwhelmed with joy to see me and always wanted to be with me. I found him jealous when i talked to his friend and after few days he asked his friend to leave our working place and so his friend left. He always went out of way to help me out. without saying anything there was a connection between us . Our chemistry was great at work and we both complimented each other . he always wanted to be with me . He understood my mood well. Indirectly he complimented me , wanted to pay for me , open doors , bring me chair , caught my gaze during conversation, stammered when talked to me and later on my presence when dealing with his colleagues made him nervous... I found him possessive , caring , jealous , loving, passionate , manipulative and controlling . I am a simple girl and give priority to loyalty so before marriage having any sort of relationship i don't find feasible as i believe it dishonesty with your future life time partner also i don't want people to gossip any thing regarding my character.... but he made me weak i was attracted towards him as if he were a magnet.... hypnotized... I felt weak infront of him... though every time i discouraged him like texting messages, he asked me to go out to anyother place as an excuse of work and i said no, i discouraged his every act like paying for me, rescuing me to home and next time he always took care of things that make me angry ... infact i loved all of his acts but pretended to not like so to stop him from doing any such thing again. His behaviour was so obvious and rumors were spreading which made me insecure , so i ignored him but it made me feel really very bad .. for the first time in my life i have such feelings for some one ... when he was with me i felt like a princess.. when i ignored or deliberately hurt him i felt extremely guilty... he behaved as such i am the only reason for his happiness.. if i am happy he is happy .. i am upset or ignore him he gets really upset.... he is on my mind 24 hours ... 2 months have passed he left but i still feel for him as my heart belongs to him ... what is this ? am i gonna come over it? am i hypnotised or in love? i really get upset to think about every time when i ignored him.... i don't want to play with his heart because i know its not gonna work .. my parents won't ever allow that's why im trying to keep away from him...... but i feel as my heart is always with him and he being a scorpio read it in my eyes what i feel for him , even i know he loves me and trusts me............... plz help i have a 24 hour fight between my brain and heart. also please tell what does mystery refers to? and is he also in love i know he is .... but is he gonna overcome it and its not gonna effect him or cause him pain am i also gonna come out of this magnetic field ... plz comment waiting really need your guidance .wat should i do .... wat r his intensions ? i never gave him the space to express me any feelings in words which i know he would have said if i gave him some liberty but his eyes and gesture showed me....
Hi sunshine.. Thanks for sharing your story. I really don't know what to say. I am not a relationship expert. In fact, I am at the opposite end. But if my input helps, here it goes.
I think you both like each other very much. It is evident that your Scorpio guy likes you very much, but may be hesitant to tell you that. May be he is confused about what you think about him and may be he is afraid to lose you. And I guess you too have feelings for him. If you have nothing to lose, why not ask him out?
Most times, they say an Aquarius and Scorpio is not a good match. But I don't entirely agree with it. If you guys have feelings for each other, just let each other, then it already seems that your personalities match. I would honestly say, if you think you guys have feelings for each other, say it and see where it goes.
For your other question about getting over it, from my personal experience, you can get over it. You don't necessarily fall in love with only one person in your entire life.
I do hope our other readers have better suggestions. All the best :)
Sunshine . I agree with karthik that we all get out of this disappoint one day or other but it depends on us how fast we recover . If i were at ur frnds place i will notlet it go easily because we are fixed sign and stubborn. Our standars are high we are not impressed easily and if we are then only after trying hard we let go . You also sound equally sunken in love pls go to him and explain everthing your parents situation and all and he will find a way i am sure . It will impress him further that you are not the usual type but a strong character girl . Both of ytou togather can makre your parents yield . You are very lucky you are loved by someone you love so i would suggest go ahead
thank u karthikkash and scopio.... p.s do u think this sounds that he loves me or likes as a paul... and u think he wanna get married or just some other thing .... i hope u under stand .....
Yep, it takes a lot to be scorpion...sometimes with tears I ask God why he made me a scorpion...being a scorpion you do great...but at the end of the day you're just a freaking frustrated man...
karthikkash,
a very interesting look at scorpios. I appreciate your candor. Voted interesting.
Lisa
sunshine: you are welcome :) Having said that he likes you, I would say, take it one step at a time and don't rush it.
sfq: thanks for commenting :) And I do agree that a Scorpio's life is far from being a bed of roses. I too sometimes ask god why I was born as a Scorpio and not some air sign. I keep sharing this with one of my other Scorpio friends that our gift is our curse..
Lisas-thoughts101: thanks a lot for that :)
I dated a scorpio male
A long time ago. He was definitely the love of my life! Cancer female by the way..nuff said partner! :)
Hi I'm a Gemini and I love thousand Scorpio we dated bit I had trust issues and I broke up with him I hurt him a lot he cried! I made a mistake and keep making them. I over react about everything and I don't know how to get him back he's not talking to me at all. What should I do??
Sorry auto correct!! * I love a scorpio not thousand..
trish: thanks for commenting :) That is potentially one of the best matches, unless of course, there are other negative factors in the relationship chart.
jordan: I hate auto corrects :D But, sorry to know about your situation. It is very hard to get back a Scorpio once you have deeply hurt them. And I would say that if a Scorpio man has cried, it means that he has deeply been hurt. I got hurt by my Scorpio dear one recently and in turn I hurt her, and I know how it feels. It took a lot of apologies and efforts from my side even to get her back to thank me for my help, considering we were best friends at one point. But our relationship is still under tremendous stress. So, I completely understand your situation.
I don't have a solution to your problem. But there are few things you can do. Make genuine efforts to make him understand that you are sorry about whatever happened (and be unconditional). Give him enough space. I don't know how long it will take for him to get back to you. There are some Scorpios who will take a long time to forgive while there are people like me who will understand and forgive more easily. And finally just pray that he understands.I am not sure if you can get back together, but it is worth a try. All the best!!
Well this might be a bit long and confusing but here goes...
For some reason there have always been Scorpios in my life. I've had best friends who were Scorpios that either ended up liking me or vice versa. I dated a Scorpio a few years ago and had we not ended things so abruptly I think we would have fallen in love because we were both so passionate about our relationship. Anyway I met a Scorpio guy last semester and I remember thinking that we would get together this semester. I wanted him to experience college first before we got into anything. I kinda forgot about him for a while because I was distracted by this other Scorpio guy this semester who I am now just good friends with--I had to let go of liking him because he was way too mean to me that I was pretty convinced he hated me for no reason. So the Scorpio from last semester shows up recently in my life out of the blue and we both have this crazy intense connection. He asked me out on a couple dates and then we agreed to do this experimental project for a class where we couldn't speak until the end of the month. There was insane tension between us. When it was over we kissed (we kissed a couple times before the project too though). I told him I didn't really like using my phone and he said he didn't either. I don't know if he misinterpretted that to mean I didn't want to speak to him or something, because now I haven't heard or seen from him in a week since we kissed. I'm not sure now how to act or treat him next time I see him because I'm unsure if what we have is something special or if he just doesn't want anything (to be honest I'm not sure it's the best timing for me either). Anyway sorry for the long story, I just love Scorpios and feel like we have always had a deep mutual understanding. I am a Pisces by the way with a rising in Pisces and my Venus in Pisces. So there's lots of water in my chart. But my sun sign is close to Aires so I think that makes me a bit of a stronger personality.
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Charlotte: Considering you are Pisces, I wouldn't be surprised that you are attracted to so many Scorpios in your life and they would be attracted to you. The attraction between a Scorpio and Pisces is almost instant. And being near to Aries won't contribute to your strong personality unless it is your rising sign or your moon sign :)
For your dilemma, I think the only way you can find out is to go for him, of course if that's what you want. As I said, there will always be a mutual attraction between a Pisces and Scorpio. Regarding if he is interested or not, unless you make a move,I think it is hard to find out. He may have thought that you don't want him to make a move which is just one possibility. If you want to take it further, give him a hint that you are interested the next time you meet him.
By the way, just a tip. Even if he is interested in you, he may want you to chase him. Scorpio men like to be chased. I did it with one of the Virgo women I dated. It is a different matter that it wouldn't work out between us. Now she is just a good friend. Being chased is just a way of testing if you are really interested in him. If you are serious about him, go for it. But if he is running too far away, then I guess it is not worth pursuing.
Being a Scorpio woman, I find I avoid Scorpio men. lol! My son is a Scorpio...I guess some of this explains his traits with women. But, he is not one I avoid, obviously. (FYI). : )I am more drawn to Cancer men, who sound a bit like you...hard to figure out, even after many years of knowing them. The one thing sure about them, is their unpredictability. But, I know this is about Scorpio men...in regards to your hub, thanks for the insight! Voted up and interesting.
thanks a lot girltalksshop :) It is interesting that you avoid Scorpio men, of course except your son :) Is it that you don't get attracted to them (may be due to your moon) or is it that you have seen quite a lot of Scorpio men around you and you found that it is difficult for two Scorpios of opposite sex to coexist? I avoided Scorpio women for some time for the same reason :) I asked this because, from what I have read and from personal experience, a Scorpio is usually attracted almost immediately to another Scorpio or Pisces.
And yes, on a side note, I have had a couple of Cancer men around me. I have observed that they share few traits with Scorpio men (I guess, the water sign related). But the huge differences I have found is that of the passion and intensity between us. They are more on the milder side and more sweet :) We appear to be very cold and project a very strong personality that scares most people.
I met this Scorpio guy years ago he was chasing me for a while but I was in a relationship with someone else. I'm single now and just recently he became single too. He started contacting me again and we went on a few dates. We have a lot of common interests, he would talk about the future and introducing me to his friends. Then suddenly he disappeared. He wouldn't reply to my texts. I must admit, this really hurt me because I don't often feel a connection with just anyone so I thought this was special. Now I hear that he has been seeing his ex-girlfriend. I guess he was just using me as a rebound which is strange because I always read that scorpios want long term relationships and are not interested in short term or one night stands - so I don't understand what he was doing with me. I still think about him all the time because I never got closure. I'd love to hear your opinion on this.
Akira
I found this useful and interesting since I have been married to a Scorpio for almost 13 years now. Pretty interesting how common characteristics run through the astrological signs. It's also interesting that my sign, Pisces, is considered highly compatible with his and we are very close.
Last year I went on about five dates with a Scorpio guy. He was lovely and I felt a strong connection with him which is strange for me because I'm a Sagittarius and never really seem to get along with Scorpio men. We got along so well and really enjoyed each others company. We didn't kiss until the 3rd date (which I thought was strange) but I read that if a Scorpio likes you they will take things slow (is this true?) but once we finally did kiss it was amazing!! He brought passion out of me I didn't know existed. I also noticed that in public he wouldn't touch me but when we were alone he couldn't keep his hands off me! (is this how all scorpios operate?) anyway on our 5th date I stayed over at his place. We just slept because I felt it was too soon to be intimate. After that night I never heard from him again. It's been a few months and nothing. I know I didn't do anything wrong and I know he was into me so I don't understand why he disappeared. Thoughts?
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passionfashion: Thanks for commenting. I think you will be a right person to enlighten us the compatibility between a Scorpio and Pisces.
Akira: Sorry to hear about your story. But, I think it may be quite possible. I know this sounds discomforting, but I guess he just loved his ex more than you. I agree that he may have chased you for a while. But when he found that you had a boyfriend and you were not available, he may have fallen for his ex. And when he broke up with her, he may not have gotten over her and he may just have been using you as his rebound. And they probably just reconciled, so he stopped seeing you.
Yes, as you said, we don't look for short term, but long term relations. The only reason I can give why he used you is that he may be broke internally after breaking up with his girlfriend (we Scorpios are indeed very soft internally) and he just wanted to feel emotionally stable. As mean as it sounds, it may be the only reason why he got back to you. All I can suggest you is to move on and find a better person.
Hi guys, am interested in your feedback.
I was chased by a scorpio guy whom I dated and slept with twice. The second time round we have an argument and I tell him that I don't want anything serious with him - I think I said it because he is very macho and a bit scary.
Anyway he still calls and asks to meet up for a third time (in the meantime I've thought a lot about him and changed my mind - I'm a gemini). He asks me if I wanna be collected by him in his car (so sweet or so I thought) and I say "no, traffic will be bad, see u there".
Get this! He turns up with another girl!! To our date! She is a friend of his and he knows I know this so I don't think he was trying to make me jealous. She and I chat while he stays pretty silent so I call a friend to come and save me (talk to this other girl while he and I talk - I know, why did I bother!).
Finally, my friend arrives, talks to his friend and he sits away from me. Then he announces in a very way he is sitting away from me because he doesn't like me. I say "why on earth did u ask me out then?" and he says "I thought I liked u but I don't". I say "Im leaving". I ask my friend for a cigarette, but she has none. Then, get this, he goes up to strangers and asks them for a cigarette for me!
Theories??
Lizzie, it sounds like he is testing you, which scorpios often do to find out how you feel about them. Also, he may be trying to hurt you because you hurt him when you told him you didn't want anything serious with him. By the way I'm a Scorpio female. Hope I helped :)
Hi Lizzie,
I agree with Marnie. He is either trying to hurt you or playing mind games with you to know how you feel. Just be yourself. If it works, great. Else move on :)
Wow...I must say by now you would think I'd know all about the Scorpio Male. I was married to one for 11 years and now am dating one since August 2011. Both of them are very different from each other which is a blessing. I'm an Aqua female dating a Scorpio male...it has had it's up's and downs as most relationships do. He definitely has the magnetism...we met online just talking and then texting. We decided to meet and from the moment I met him and looked into his eyes I was in love. It took him a little more time to come around and tell me he was in love with me as well...but it did finally happen. We still have our problems especially since he's not open to talking about things...or rather issues in his life...he is very mysterious and secretive with that. He does occasionally open up about his past and tell me things but he is one that remains to himself and works thru his problems by himself. So I've had to learn that when this moodiness hits to just give him his space...let him know that I'm here but not push myself on him. It's worked so far. He is jealous and possessive but not to the extreme that I have seen before...but then again I am a bit jealous myself at times. I know he flirts with other females and am fine with that...he knows where I stand on you can flirt all you want you just can't touch if you expect the same from me. I give what I get and won't take less. Most Aqua's are free spirits and like to have their freedom or independence...well I'm the complete opposite of that...I do enjoy my independence or my alone time but I enjoy being with my Scorpio man just as much. I've been with several Scorpio males and this one actually seems to be healthier then the others also adding in any of my other relationships with that. Thank you for this article...it's helped to confirm that I'm not crazy when I think he's moody and ignoring me...it's his character and I am doing what I need to by giving him his space. ;)
Hi Bianca, im a Scorpio male and I've never kissed a girl I was interested in straightaway. I feel like if you make it all about that (sex) to begin with its harder to get to know the girl. If I was just after sex then I would be more forward. Also, you say he stopped contacting you after you slept at his place? Maybe you were sending him mixed signals by doing this and he wasn't sure how serious you were about him. He probably wanted you to chase him a little bit so he would get the green light that you like him. That's just my opinion - I had a similar incident happen to me with a girl once. She didn't chase me so I just assumed she wasn't interested in a serious relationship with me.
Hi Bianca,
I will agree with Ryan partly because I don't know the entire story. Regarding he not kissing you on a first date, I wouldn't feel strange. I wouldn't kiss anyone I am absolutely sure that I am going in for a serious relationship. And yes, we do take things slowly. We need to build that trust and only when we are sure, we enter a relationship and hence it takes time for us.
Regarding public display of affection, I really can't vouch for all Scorpios. But through my experience, we really like to keep it private rather than a public display.
As Ryan said, I would ask if you did chase him? If not, he would have felt that you are not serious and he may have dropped it there.
Hey @karthikkash, I was wondering if what is going on with me (saggitarius) and my scorpio man, He told me about this girl that he loves so much, But I confessed to him that I like him before he opened up. He told me that he got plans on pulling a secret wedding n singapore with his girl.This wednesday, we had this conversation that he asked me "How much do you love me" and then I answered, I love in a sense that even though you're happy with someone else I'd still be happy for you because I want you to be happy. Then he said "why me?" Then I said "Sometimes, feelings are too deep to explain in words" then the conversation took further. Then he told me On This wednesday morning "Let's watch AVENGERS later" then I said ok. Then we meet up to the mall, He paid for our tickets and we entered the cinema. We sat down for all the intros of the movie, then he lend me his hand, then I tend to played with it to act shy. then meanwhile, when the movie started, I stopped playing with his hand, then he stopped and Hold my hand, I was shocked ofcourse because he has a girlfriend, but yeah. Then later on, he removed his hand and put his arms to my shoulder and let me lean on him then he kissed me on the back of my head, of course I was shocked again but I did the "go with the flow" thing so, in the middle of the movie, he kissed me on my right cheek, then he said, are you enjoying the movie? Then I was like Yeah I am. then kissed me again. all the same goes while in the ending part of the movie, he tend to stand up and kissed me on the LIPS. I was nothing but to kiss him too, then we went out of the cinema and he walked me to the train station, then he kissed me on my forehead. then i went home, But upto now (friday) He's still not texting/ havent been Online since wednesday and etc. But he told me that this Sunday he'll go to Singapore with his family. The question is, What is this he is acting while he is committed and had plans to marry this girl? I need an answer please THANK YOU! :')
And yeah I chased him because I loved him so much I would tell him he's the PRINCE of my life :)) then we told stories and jokes :) But of course there are parts that I would be hurt because he told me that he really loves his girlfriend :((((((
Honestly, this behavior is complex to me. Personally, if I had a girlfriend I love and intend to marry, I would not kiss another girl. Yes, movie is another thing, but holding a girl and kissing her other than my GF is another thing. I would go out with my best friend, but wouldn't kiss her. And I would definitely make it clear that we are just friends.
I don't want to discourage you, but did he tell you when he is coming back? Try contacting him once he is back. If he doesn't respond, stop and move on. I think if he is already in love with his girl friend, he may not come back to you. I am sorry about that.
I hope other Scorpio guys may be able to help you in a better way.
Yeah he told me his going back in the next 2 weeks. :')
But why did he still wanted to go out if he knew he's inlove and tends to marry this girl? Is he just using me?
Thanks Ryan and Karthikkash for your replies. I did kind of chase him..I texted him once about a month after our last date telling him that I really enjoy his company and I'd like to see him again - He didn't reply. Then I contacted him again via email about two months after that I kept it really casual, just seeing how he was etc and and he responded straightaway! I emailed back a day later and he never responded. I just left it at that. I don't know if he is playing games with me and stringing me along. I don't like game players and I've never had to chase a man before.
swaggerelsea: I understand your situation. But his behavior is beyond my understanding.
Bianca: Actually one and two months are quite too far for a Scorpio guy, according to my thinking. I am not sure if he is really interested in you. From my understanding, a Scorpio male likes to be chased and if he is really interested in you, he will do the chasing as well. So, if he isn't doing the chasing, then you may have to forget it.
Just a personal experience. The girl I recently asked out, I am really interested in her. And I am definitely doing the chasing even though she wants to keep distance. I send her sweet things once every 4-5 days (of course, our relationship started as close friends, so it has been that way from the beginning). So, unless he is doing at least a bit of chasing, then I don't think it is going much anywhere.
By the way, another thing is that, a Scorpio guy likes to be chased just to see if the girl truly likes him. The reason is simple. A Scorpio guy doesn't like to be heart broken (unless of course if he is the player types). So, he does this just to avoid getting hurt too easily.
Hi Karthik I agree with your opinion.I have a Scorpio friend his character is similar to this.
thanks for sharing anusujith :)
One thing I will say about Scorpio men is they don't like games. Your best move is to just be honest with them.
But once in love, they are very jealous and possessive.
Great hub. Scorpios are known for their possession like qualities.
You have created a nice Hub. I voted it up. But I don't believe a word you are saying. Sorry.
I am a 38yr old Libra who has recently gotten involved with a 36yr old Scorpio. I met him 2 1/2 wks and we have been out a total of 8 times. He was married for 8 yrs been has been divorced for 2. He has is kids every weekend, which I thought would be a problem, but he makes sure that we do spend time together during the week. I have never dated a Scorpio before and I must say they are in a ledge of their own. I really like this guy and yes we have already been intimate. Now with that being said OMG the best ever. We are still kool and continue to see each other. However, I am really trying to get to know him but he does not share much about himself. I did ask what was his expectations and what he was looking for. He told me that he is looking for a relationship but he is a very comtemplative person. With that being said and reading all the other post. I am wondering is it best just not to try and figure him out and just roll with it. I am really feeling this guy and don't want to mess it up. Also I've been told that Libra's and Scorpo's are not good match. Looking for so insite or opinions about this...
passionfashion and JessicaSmetz: thanks for summarizing it aptly :)
onlinereputations: thanks for voting it up :) and yes, it is a personal choice to believe or not believe in it. And that can be respected :)
therealthang38: thanks for sharing :) you have definitely got things right. Please do not push your Scorpio guy to open up or try to figure him out so fast. You know that he likes you. So, he will eventually open up. Yes, we contemplate a lot. We appear calm on the exterior as if there is nothing. But our brain is always thinking inside. He likes you, there is no doubt. But, understand that how much ever we love someone, we need a bit of a distance and we are a bit on guard always. It will take a while for him to drop his guard. So just wait for that time. He will open up.
Regarding a good or a bad match, I am a strong believer of compatibility. But ultimately, I am also a strong believer that everything depends on the persons involved as to how much they are willing to adjust and compromise. I have seen Scorpio and Leo married and living happily (of course, while having their share of problems). So, if you know that he is the one, hold on to him tight. All the best :)
Uhmm and yeah @karthikkash? He texted me and said he is missing me :( Im so CONFUSED! Help! :(( I dont wanna ask him if what was the kiss about and he asked me to go aout again D: I dont know what to do :(
Ugh, this is such a long and confusing story so I’ll try to be concise as possible. I met this scorpio guy 3 years ago, he pursued me after seeing me at his mom’s work (we used to work together and are still good friends). We went out on a couple of dates and we hit it off immediately. Conversation was intellectually stimulating and chemistry was definitely there. However…I had just recently gotten out of a serious relationship (with another scorpio who didn’t want to let go) and he was still entangled with another Capricorn girl so the timing was off but there was definitely a connection. He is a couple years younger than me – I’m 27, he’s 24 so at the time he was only 21. Obviously we were both not necessarily ready to just jump into relationships…so we’ve had this on and off thing for 3 years where we will hang out and sleep together and then I will find myself wanting more but confused with all of his mixed signals and him talking to a bunch of other girls. So as Capricorns are possessive as well I get extrememly jealous and pissed off and I quit talking to him for months at a time. I go and date other guys all the while missing him terribly. But there is something that always pulls me back, there is this unspoken bond…we have dreams about one another and he understands my sensitive heart and the pain from my past. I go back to him and I always tell him that I want us to be friends no matter what and he asked me the last couple of times we’ve started hanging out again to not disappear on him again. I finally told him my true feelings for him a couple of months ago and he said that he knows what I have to offer is wonderful and that it isn’t that he doesn’t like me it’s just he is trying to focus on med school right now and doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I told him I understood and (for personal reasons) it was best that I’m not in a relationship either right now and that I didn’t want any more drama between us. Our friendship has come to a good place and I feel like we’re finally starting to be more honest with one another….BUT here comes the curve ball….he asked me to be his roommate and as he put it “sex would, more than likely, have to be eliminated”. How can we be roommates given our history? Does he really just want to be platonic friends? Or is this his way of keeping me close so I don’t “disappear” again? I noticed you said Scorpios can be manipulative to get what they want and on one hand I think he’s doing this to keep me at bay so technically he can do whatever he wants as he called it our “bachelor/bachelorette pad”. But on the other hand he could really just want to be friends…but why would he ask me to be his roommate when he knows how I feel about him. He is so hard to read please help!
just read this with much interest ,im virgo and he is scorpio,we met online he persued me for a month and once i showed him interest he gave me his mobile number then deleted his yb account ?we txt 6 days a week( 1 day a week he likes to be left alone) n he compliments me and says he wants us to meet and always as wanted that but hes going through some stuff at mo ,his marraige broke down 2yrs ago n says hes only just dealing with it n he doesnt want to go back,its been over 3 months now n i still dont know when he wants to see me n im not pushing him cos of his down days etc,sometimes wonder if he really does want to see me?.ive told him i have feelings for him and ill support him through this bad period n he thanked me for sticking around,he does show me alot of affection via txt but not sure how serious he is.sooooo glad i found this page .btw he as opened up a little .he says my eyes make him melt i liked that :0). advice please ,3 months n no light at end of tunnel yet !!
Hi. Reading this hub has been really interesting thank you!
My story about a scorpio man is only short. I met this guy in Spain, he is half Austrain/Italian and I am English. It took us a few months to get together, before then there was loads of intense flirting. Things were great when we were together. Spent loads of time with each other and just had a lot of fun. My job contract finished at the end of November and I came back to the UK. When I left he seemed a little indifferent and said maybe we will see each other again. I thought I would be back in Spain by March at the latest. Anyway we stayed in touch and whilst I was in England he moved back to Austria for work. Once in Austria he asked me to go and see him and we speak on the phone a lot. He tells me he misses me and will come to England to see me soon.
The only thing is sometimes he goes quiet for a few days and I hear nothing from him. He is beautiful and so flirtatious I constantly think he has met someone new...it's a really negative way for me to feel. I just wondered what people thought...I know I am in love with him...I just guess my big question is this worth my time and energy or will I get hurt in the end????
Thanks xxxx
swaggerelsea: I am sorry for the late reply. I am really not sure what he wants. He may be missing you just as a friend. My suggestion is to openly ask him what he wants. And tell him to be honest. There are certain Scorpios (both men and women) who don't mind attention and playing around. So you will have to be straight with him.
capricorn sun-cancer rising: It is very difficult to understand a Scorpio's mind. As much as a Scorpio understands another, A Scorpio is still an enigma. The way I see it, there may be two possibilities. First, he may still have feelings for you and does not want to let you go (a Scorpio's feelings run very deep beyond someone's comprehension and it can be there for years). It may be his way of keeping you close so that he may want to develop that into a relationship in the future. He may have said that he just wants to be friends, but sometimes we Scorpio men too are very confused.
The other possibility is that he may just want to keep it platonic and not necessarily anything more. I once fell for a girl and proposed her. I had made every possible effort to keep her. She is now married and I don't have those feelings any more (we had almost an year and a half of gap before we met again and she had a boyfriend). But I still keep her close even today as a good friend. So, his feelings may be on similar lines.
Given that you are a Capricorn, I know that you guys don't trust easily either. So, I would suggest you to take it slowly and see how it proceeds :)
jjpinki: It may be quite possible that he may be busy with whatever he said. Alternatively, if you are a bit unsure, stop chasing him for a short duration and see if he chases you back. That is the easiest way of finding out whether he is really interested in you or not. Usually Scorpio-Virgo is supposed to be a decent match, so you never know :)
thanx for that ,i didnt go right into detail but its not about him being busy ,he said since his marraige broke down 2yrs ago hes not dealt with issues and lived day to day like a drifter n he says time as come to sort his life n move forward ive only known him since january (online n txt)hes depressed at mo n has good n bad days n im standing by him .i will ignore him for a while n see if he really wants me around or just passing time for him.thanx again .
I just came up on your blog and I've been looking thru every astrology site there is for info on scorpios. Your post have been so so helpful. Anyway heres my problem
I met this Scorpio male on this dating site about three days ago and right away we hit it off like bam! We talked about random things from music to our jobs and majors we are studying. I realized right away we have slit if diffrences especially in music but that's no big deal. Being the Virgo I am born on August 28 91 and he's born on nov 16 91, we share a great deal with our keen eyes for observation, he wants to be cop and I'm doing social worker and interior designing on the side, he's very social and loves to party and dance. Anyway he's really quite the charmer and very intense and straight forward with his liking to me. But I can't tell whether his feelings he's gathering for me are good are not ? I didn't reveal too much about myself right away I just let him know I like ppl who are upfront and honest with me about their feelings. He said he agrees and he have never met a girl like me before. Right when he was saying goodnight he send me this paint smiley face he draw to me. But I also notice he has a lot of females campo ions around him so he could probably being that charming with them too. Plus I just got out of talkin to a Callie who so everyone say is suppose to be the pm for a Virgo and he wasn't we shared a lot in common but he justez wanted me to. Chase him and after waiting around for him for weeks I decide to move on with my life and now he's mad telling me to do my thing. But the point I don't show are express my feelings so much unless I really really like someone and can see myself with them. I kind like this scorpio guy I'm starting to he seems really sweet but only time can tell right now I just like his company. So what can you guys tell me about him and scorpion born in this month ? So I run are stick around ?
I forgot to add that I notice his possessiveness and determination right away. I asked a lot of the questions at first until he turned it around on me. He was determine to get my number and when he did he decide to quiz me and at one point I told him I notice your observing me for I was getting uncomfortable and nervous when I'm around any scene are situation I'm not comfortable I get really cheerful and act weird and say a lot of sarcastic jokes to laugh off the moment. Anyway he said he trying to read me but he can't who had pleased me so I asked him what he notice so far and he told I was cool funny cute sensible and can hold a good conversation, I told him thank you. So far I can really get good reading of how he is by how he talks and react, still should I stick around are run
Hey karthikash
Scorpio men in love are total beta males. They are too silent and shy. But act overconfident and uncaring till the girl leaves them, then it is all heartbreak and he tries go back in time wondering how he could have done better.
Very, very, very, insightful! I have to say this has been one of the best reads I had. Everyone sharing their views, experiences, and asking questions. Wow, I am just blown away!
I didn't realize how deep a scorpio was until I ran across your post. Many things actually cleared up for me as I continued to read through all the comments.
It's interesting to me how close I am with 2 very special and important scorpios in my life. My older brother and my cousin, who happens to be my best friend. They confide in me as much as I do them and they are completelly wonderful.
Now, I am lost beyond what mind I have about a man I hardly know. Yes, I can say it.."I think I am falling in love with a scorpio." Ahahaha...I am a newbie to this whole thing after being married for 10 yrs, but 30 is still young. Well, at least I think it is.
We exchange stories we don't share with others, he posted on his fb wall I am his BFF, we send gifts to each other, he tells me I can e-mail whenever and 24/7 if need, and it just sucks that he moved back to Europe!
Nevertheless, I wouldn't change anything for the world. Well, maybe one or two things...hehehe. Scorpios Rock!
kenyanscorp: I partially agree with you. We are very silent and shy. Overconfident, I am not sure. But we definitely are confident :) Uncaring, definitely not. There may however be some jerks who don't care. We may appear uncaring, but we are some of the most caring people for someone we really love. Yes, we don't show it openly, but we show it through actions. In fact, we are some people who could possibly sacrifice ourselves for someone who we really love.
twinkletoes168: thanks a lot for sharing your view :)
Lovevirgo: He sounds like an interesting person. I would suggest that you guys meet before taking it further. However good a person is on a dating site, you can really understand him only once you meet him and spend time with him. All the best :)
Hey,
I'm taurus, and my new bf is scorpio
Actually i don't know how to act with him, sometimes i feel that he's really in love with me and sometimes feel the opposite.
He always defend me behind my back, and talk good things about me.
But he rarely call or text me, and he always wait on me to start calling or texting, behind that he's jealous and wanna take control of me... tell me plz what to do??
keep contacting him or not?? is he really intersted or not??
thanks :)
Alina: Taurus and Scorpio are opposites, and as the saying goes, opposites attract each other... at least in the short term. The real problem comes in the long term. They both are fixed signs and very difficult to change. Having said that, some claim that it is one of the best matches possible, provided you understand and appreciate each other's difference. It is like two halves of the circle coming together to form a complete circle.
Regarding his jealousy and controlling nature, it is second nature to Scorpios, so there is nothing special about it :) Him being jealous just shows that he loves you. But of course, never let a Scorpio guy take complete control of you, otherwise you will start suffocating. You will have to let him know that you need some freedom as well.
If he is talking sweet things about you, defending you and he is jealous, it very much means that he likes you. And as much as you contact him, pull back a bit and let him contact you for a while as well. I personally think that, in a relationship, initiating communication should be from both ends.
I've known this Scorpio man for quite sometime. I met him 11 years ago at university on my first freshman year and it was the last semester for him. We use to meet between our lectures and talk. He's 12 years older than me. I was 17 and he was 29. After the semester was over he graduated and I never saw him again. It was normal, we were just normal colleagues. But at the back of my mind I used to think of him and wonder about him and then I forget. Until one day after 10 years on the beach someone comes to me and reminds of himself, and it was him! I didn't recognize him he looked different. From there we started meeting every weekend on the beach and talk for hours. He got married and divorced I'm still single. By time we got close and instead of meeting only at the beach we went out for dinner a couple of times and then to his house we didn't get intimate because I know he's a flirt and he has a lot of girls around him and his a playboy and has his one night stands with a lot of girls. Being a cancerian when I'm not sure of someone I freak out. He tried a couple of times to kiss me and sleep with me but I use to freak out I didn't want to be like the other girls he knew. He trusted me a lot and when he's upset he calls me to meet and tells me what's bothering him. We had picnics I use to go to his place and cook for him and he used to tell me that when his eyes first fell on me in university he liked me as my looks are his style. By time I fell for him but still withdrew from sex , and I started thinking of him night and day. Then one day I decided to tell him my feelings a year and a half passed and I can't continue like that. I texted him with my feelings coz I didn't have the courage to say it face to face. To my surprise he texted me back saying I'm only a friend to him. I sent him back telling him we were never friends and never will! He called so many times but I just couldn't reply I was so upset. A couple of weeks later I was on the beach and we met he came up to me and said we were just friends and it's better if remain friends. I told him that there was no need for him to say anything and at that time there was someone new in my life who proposed to me to get engaged so I told him I was getting engaged and I disappeared. I changed my phone number and stopped going to the beach and
Accepted the proposal of the new man in my life. I used to think of him when I'm in my fiancé arms and cry my eyes off .and have him in my dreams frequently apologizing and kissing my hands. After 2 years I broke up with my fiancé we were not compatible at all with one another so I thought why not call him I called him and we spoke again and I got to know that he was about to get married and a month before the wedding his bride wasn't sure if he was the right man for her. He's still confused and heartbroken but was very happy to have me back in his life and during our phone calls he tells me he will call me everyday and that he misses me, i don't know where is it going this time but what I know is that i love him so much even keeping him as friend is ok with me than not having him, but it's a torture again he's always on my mind and after that he has told that he will call me everyday he hasn't been calling much. I cry every night and pray god that this time he will tell him he loves me. I'm not really open with speaking up my feelings I fear rejection. I was out for dinner with him and a friend of his and he was telling him how long does he know me for and that I care for him and that by far I'm the best female he has ever known. He was speaking with passion about me but he's still very secretive
Vivid z: Being a Scorpio, it looks complicated to me. And a very tiny part of this right now applies to my life as well. I don't think I am the right guy to suggest you a solution. I really hope that our other readers may be able to help with your situation.
Karthik: sometimes I go crazy and I really regret I called him again after 2 years. It's only a heartache. I just wish I'm not driven with my emotions like that and keep him as friend without involving any emotions but it's very difficult
ive had a really good read and when i dont txt him he txt me asking me why im so quiet and he as a jealous streak even with workmen coming to my house and when we fall out or should i say when i fall out with him he always replies to my messages right away and he says he missed me when we didnt talk for 2 weeks ,so im thinking even though hes a moody grumpy pain in the butt at times that he may just have feelings for me like i have for my gorgeous scorpio man
I have been seeing a Scorpio male for about 6 mo off and on. I am also a Scorpio woman. we met by a long scorpio stare at a meeting. Both being intuitive it was literally a question and answer conversation without words. The one thing we both always say that keeps us attracted is we are honest with eachother. We don't say things if we don't mean them,and we have no problem asking eachother for help in our personal lives. It's streight forward no games ( we would easily be able to tell if one of us was playing games or lieing)
We both like control though, this sometimes causes a conflict, especially sexually he always wants to rule and I submit to him. However anyone who has been with a Scorpio knows sexis always exciting, tell him what you want and he will 100% provide it. Dont dance around sexual subject, he wants to know what you want as sexual confidence turns him on Look him in the eyes, so he knows what you like and feel,( most scorpios have very pretty eyes)
I do not know how this relationship will end. But i am sure at somepoint it will. He will Probrobly just walk away. I am aware of this. I would rather have it that way then anger him and have a very strong enemy. Being a female Scorpio I know the intensity and pain of the sting we can inflict. I don't like delivering it and would certainly never want to be on the receiving end. Either way I am enjoying it while it lasts!!!
Scorpio chic: thanks for sharing. A Scorpio-Scorpio story is always interesting. The girl I recently asked out is a Scorpio and yes, a very strong Scorpio woman. She was also close friend. And every time I remember, the basis for our friendship was trust and communication. We never BS with each other and we always trusted each other. We also could easily make out if something is wrong when we were talking and we could easily make out if we are BSing, so we always had a straight talk. We always shared each other's secrets with no one else, but within us.
In fact, we became instant friends as we met. It just took each of us to know that we both were Scorpios and we both were weird and crazy when we were together. I remember the fire we used to set in everybody's stomach when we used to be together. Everyone used to think we were dating and people used to be jealous of the way we were with each other (of course, they were jealous for some other reasons as well).
And as we know, a Scorpio-Scorpio fight is always like a thunderstorm. After I asked her out, some things happened (given that I am a Scorpio and I am known for possessiveness, and a Scorpio girl likes her independence). We had a really bad fight. We finally apologized to each other and spoke a couple of times later cordially, but I know for a fact that we both will remember this for a long time. And now she has disappeared (I don't know if she disappeared because she said she needed some distance). But I know that a Scorpio-Scorpio attraction will bring her back. I know that things won't be same again (and I want it that way, because I am not willing to go down the friendship path now). I am just keeping my fingers crossed for whatever the future holds for both of us.
A few of the things you said here hit the nail right on the head!!!!!!!!! For anyone in love with a Scorpio man you've provided some info that is akin to kryptonite for Superman. Even if you aren't into playing games, realize that the Scorpio man is. And if you set up the game, make sure it's set up for him to win, and the prize is you. It may sound devious, but the Scorpio man would expect (and desire) nothing less from his prey! Nice article and blog!
thanks a lot for the feedback, brianschwarz :)
Thanks for your input karthiskish :)
I wanted your honest opinion on Scorpio male and Virgo woman compatible ? Is it good?
Scorpio man are bit confusing to other, specially to opposite sex. Most of them misinterpret about that of guys because they are not open and least social. What I viewed about Scorpio man I found in your article too. Thanks for sharing. Cheers Scorpio man!
Interesting but I am Virgo and I never fall in love with anyone ..I thought I would but it never happened
Lovevirgo: It is not the greatest match in the zodiac, but it can be counted as a decent one. Checkout some of the sites, you will be able to find out about it :)
am301986: thank you for the feedback, and yes rightly said about Scorpio men :)
amithak50: It is true about Virgo women in general that it is difficult for them to fall in love, as they look for the perfect love, which unfortunately does not exist. However, it is usually a Scorpio guy who attracts them (I am not sure which other zodiac signs Virgo women are attracted to) as they find him a no-nonsense guy and of course other reasons. I have had 3 Virgo friends (and one I dated). Apart from Scorpio women, I used to get attracted to Virgo women and I know they used to get attracted to me.
I am in love with a Scorpio man that actually told me he loved me first. The problem is that I rarely get to see him and his lack of communication really go to me one night and I texted him on numerous times one night regarding the subject. Since that night I have only heard from him once and it was me practically begging him for a response to my apologies and at least tell me to take a flying leap if I had made him that mad. He wrote me back that he was not mad at me that I had disappointed him. I have sent him a couple of text since but have received no response back. Any suggestions? Yes, I am a blunt Sag.
Shoot4theStars: The way I see this, it is a classic game of chase. Stop chasing him. If he really loves you, he will come back for you. Just have patience, wait for some time and don't contact him. Let him know that you are the price catch. As I said, if he really loves you, he will come for you. We Scorpio men love it when someone chases us. Show us that you are not easily available, we will automatically start chasing you ;) All the best :)
Big THANK YOU for writing this post!! I've saved it to my favorites for future reference. I'm a sag, was married to scorpio for 5 years. We're still together but got divorced. Long story short; I'm not a big fan of marriage. But I have to say it's been the easiest relationship I've ever had. Most loyal man ever. Thank you!
thanks for sharing Skye :)
Thanks for sharing.Seems like your hub stirs most of their interest. =). I have only one advise to those who are confuse if their girl or guy friend really like them: Do not assume unless stated. I've been in that situation before and I've learned my lesson.
No chance, no way. I won't say I'm in love.=)
Thanks Melbourne31, rightly said :) I have been like that before. I too have learned my lessons.
Am a cancer in a relationship with a scorpion guy.am confused on what his feelings for me are.somtimes he makes me happy,before u knw it am crying.the little time we spent together in his house and hangouts still lingers in my memory because he treated me like a queen.but the worst is that he has refused to see me for 1 1/2yr now.am the one who does the calling.one day he sent me a txt commending me on my effort in keeping the relationship alive.he said that he will forever b indebted to me with love and appreciation.i love him so much that i find it difficult to let go.i can't understand y he doesn't want to see me yet.sometimes he will promise indirectly to come & i will get ready only for him to laugh it off at d end of the day.whenever i confront him,he will tell me that he always have me in mind"out of sight is not out of mind"but if i think i can't be patient with him,i should do whatever i want to do that he won't b angry.this statement breaks my heart.i hv decided to stop calling frequently let me see if i can forget him.i hv begged him most times to call it off if he thinks it's nt working.he do appreciate some qualities like independence in me bt has never said he loves me.we r clocking 2yrs in three month's time,help me on what to do pls.
I am in love with a scorpio , even my guy was also in love with me but due to some reasons i asked him to let me alone and so he did ..... I just wanna know if he is ever gonna show again or its over from his side ? will he again give it a try ?i know he truly loved me ....
I definitely agree with your "flirting" statement... one scorpio man I know, he flirts to many and find none becoming his girl so far... and i guess he flirts to me and haven't made any statement bout we're doing so far...
karthikkash, I am a Libran, head over heels over a Scorpio. I am interested in learning our zodiac profiles. Do you have a suggestion on the best books to learn about the moons and planets etc? You seem to know quite a bit.
Your hub is great, by the way. It has helped me with understanding the Scorpio that has stolen my heart, I was so confused at first. Thank you, it is greatly appreciated.
Scorpio and Pisces go really well 2gther. and they will have that instant love connection. for sure...
I am a Scorpio male talking to a torus female and I have the feeling that is different from any other girl I talked to. I know that she likes me and I think I like her but I get hesitant to take it to the next level and I dnt know if it's because I don't know what will happen or because I dnt want to open up or because I'm being shy? It weird Cuz I think of her and about the future if i am with her but I just second guess my self when the time comes. I sometimes I should just take the chance but then I talk my self out of it. I dnt know what to do? Is there anything that could help.
suzzi: why not just call him and see if he is still interested? You never know what goes on in a Scorpio's head. I have been trying to figure out what is going on in my girl's head (she is a Scorpio) for the past one month after our fight and apologies, and I am just unable to figure out ;) If you two parted in good ways, there may still be chances. But if you parted in a wrong way, then he may not like you at all. So it is best to ask. And it is alright to take first step (I am one Scorpio who likes that a girl takes the first step).
leo woman: A Scorpio guy can definitely flirt, but it may be harmless. The only way you can make out if he really likes you is when he starts getting obsessed with you and he spends more time being nice to you. So, if he is showing any of those signs, he may be liking you.
Phoenix: Thanks a lot :) Good to know that it helped. Frankly, I know only that much of astrology as I read and the people I see around me, nothing more :) So, I will definitely be giving you wrong directions if I suggest any books. I think there are quite a few popular ones available in the book stores or online. And there are few websites where you can also get a compatibility chart done for a few dollars.
To all the Scorpios out there. Did you know that Pisces is your #1 most compatible of all 12 signs? Check this out.
I am a Pisces female. My Scorpio is just so very sexy and we have the most Powerful most amazing chemistry I ever had with any man. Even when people r around us they say they can feel our chemistry in the room. We make lots if eye communcation that I love. he is a very introverted about his feeling towards me but that magic is just strong and there. He called me up 2 weeks ago and said he was off work on Saturday and wanted to see me. I said take me to the movies u need to take me out. I said if you dont take me to the movies were not having sex and I haven't heard from him since. WTF. I love the sex a lot but I'm tired of us jus having sex and that's it. I want to do more with him than just that.What should I do? I did call him but he did not answer that was 2 weeks ago we have talked in 2 weeks =( I miss him so much. What should I do?
Karthikassh,i posted my comment on saturday,5th of may,am still waiting for ur advice on what to do wit my scorpio lover pls.Hummy the cancerian woman.
Hummy: I am really sorry, I didn't respond to your comment. I saw it, but it sounds like a complex situation. I am honestly not a relationship expert (trust me, I am in much need of help right now in my life). But here goes, if it helps.
I think he may be quite unsure about your relationship, because if he totally loves you, he should come for you. But, I guess he may be liking you, at the same time unsure about the relationship. Give it some time, don't call him and see if it works. If he does not call back, then I think you should move on.
OK Thanks so much yes we have been friends for 2.5 years and really good friends..I'm not sure why he didn't want to take me to the movies however I will take a step back and wait for him to call this time. Thanks so much for all your help.
O I am sorry you were not talking to me you were talking to the other person...sorry my bad but u can answer my question next..
Venus: Actually giving him a bit space is not a bad idea.. I guess he just got a bit irked at "else, I am not having sex".. But that's alright.. I don't think there is anything too serious about it. Give him some space to come out of his shell and he will come back to you.
By the way, as you said, I guess Pisces are indeed the most compatible with Scorpios. The funny thing is that, I immediately get attracted to Scorpios and never have got too see a Pisces woman.
Karth yes we r such a Powerful couple sexy couple..LOL..the chemistry is just beyond explosive and I love looking @ my Scorpio's eyes..I will give him sum rest...if u get a chance try an attractive Pisces =)
thanks a lot Venus.. I hope my present life works out. If it doesn't for some reason (I have confidence that it will), then my next one will be a beautiful Pisces :)
I've never dated a Scorpio before, and honestly I've never looked over horoscopes to figure out a person's character. But gosh... with my Scorpio guy, I need any sort of guidance to understand him. So help!
We've been attracted to each other for about 6 months. But because I was with my ex at the time, neither of us made any move to each other. Then about two months ago, after breaking up with my ex, we finally got hooked up. Ever since then, we occasionally hang out, talk, etc.
I've never felt this way towards anyone before because I don't fall in love easily either (to be honest, I don't think i've ever yet). Sometimes this feels like some kind of teenage-crush, and I just laugh at myself.
He is definitely secretive, which sometimes troubled me a little bit since I couldn't connect with him. But after 2nd date, he opened up and told me a lot about his past and his beliefs. This 6'3'' tall guy becomes a little doggie 'when he's with me', which he never does to his coworkers. He sometimes expresses how much he likes me and thinks I'm beautiful and all 'when he's with me'. I'm also very quick on reading people so I can see whether they actually mean what they say. So I know for sure he really means it. However, the problem is he disappears all of sudden and doesn't even answer to my txts. He sometimes talks to me online, but then it takes him about 10~15 minutes to reply, which bugs me. It's true that it's only been two months, so I know I need to be patient. But how he acts when he's with me doesn't correlate to how he does when he's not with me, which confuses me a lot. I just give him his space when he's like this and he comes around again. I know he appreciates my very understanding and easy-going personality, but I feel like sometimes he's taking it way too far. I've never treated like this before, and I know I deserve better, too. Ugh... I wouldn't have got into this if I only knew he was a true bad boy!!!
LibraLady: I don't believe in horoscopes either. Horoscopes are just part of astrology. Most people confuse horoscopes with astrology and hence start saying that they don't believe in astrology.
Now, I don't know much about a Libra-Scorpio pairing, but it is usually said that they are not the best of the compatible pair, though there is almost an immediate attraction between the two. But again, in astrology, a relationship is more than two sun signs being compatible. You need a detailed compatibility chart to see if you two are compatible with each other. I won't go into the details. You can probably have a peek of the compatibility on this link
http://www.e-tarocchi.com/Astrology-Compatitbility
or
http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2
These are some of the links I use. The details are Greek and Latin to me, but the little details it has, I think, are helpful.
Now regarding characteristics, you got to understand a few things. The first thing a Scorpio guy will indirectly teach you is patience.. and a lot of it. You will feel that he is testing you. And yes, he is. Because, we don't like to end heart broken. We are very bad in dealing with a broken heart and we cannot move on easily.
Secondly, yes, all Scorpios are secretive irrespective of men or women. You need to have patience so that they start opening up. You already know that giving him enough space draws him back to you. So, I guess the only remedy is that being patient and giving him his space. If you are unable to handle this, probably he is not the guy for you.
You are really spot on with some of the character traits of Scorpio men you've expressed here. Half the time, we remain clueless to what they are actually thinking. What, with all that 'mysterious' aura.
Another trait that I actually like about Scorpios is their ability to give honest compliments/criticism. You can always expect the truth from them; no platitudes or fake praises.
A really interesting hub. :)
Thanks a lot silverstararrow :)
Thankyou .... May God bless you...:)
my story is similar to some others here. but here it goes. it's been a year. we met. he pursued me. i had a boyfriend, he had a girlfriend. but things progressed quickly. he moved in with me. we had an amazing time. it took him some time to break up with his girlfriend, because she was overseas. finally we were together. but there was always this thing. i didn't feel like he really was there. i must admit, i acted a little bit aloof. when things were going very badly in his life, out of the blue he broke up with me. 2 weeks later he said he loved me and i was the right woman for him. but i was hurt. so i didn't reciprocate. we kept having sex. and fighting. and talking every day. a couple of months later he pulled himself back. we stopped seeing each other for a while. then bit by bit we became friends. i know he trusts me. we have a very good relationship. the thing is i am still in love with him. i told him about it once, he said ihe wasn't there. i said ok and never talked about it again. i see other people. he says he never does. he says he didn't sleep with anyone since we broke up. he says he wants to be alone. he flirts with me. he calls me everyday. he gets jealous. he still is possessive. he does this weird thing, he turns me on, he knows how to, then he doesn't proceed. i don't understand. is it like a game to him, does he really love me (he still says so), is he afraid to be vulnerable? or he really only has friendly feelings for me and i am misinterpreting. i should add, before he broke up with me i was about to leave the town for a long time. i think this broke his heart. so should i stay or should i go?
hey kathikkash, i haven't heard back from you in a while. i hope u can help me with my situation cause its driving me crazy.
"I am a Scorpio male talking to a torus female and I have the feeling that is different from any other girl I talked to. I know that she likes me and I think I like her but I get hesitant to take it to the next level and I dnt know if it's because I don't know what will happen or because I dnt want to open up or because I'm being shy? It weird Cuz I think of her and about the future if i am with her but I just second guess my self when the time comes. I sometimes I should just take the chance but then I talk my self out of it. I dnt know what to do? Is there anything that could help."
jb279: Sorry, I overlooked it. From what I have heard, a Scorpio-Taurus pair is something like opposites attracting each other. Both are two people who are completely opposite in nature, hence get attracted to each other immediately. Some people also say that it is a Karmic bond (I don't know what it exactly means). I have heard that it has great potential. But beware, both are highly possessive about each other (which is definitely good) whereas a Taurus woman can be highly stubborn (they are known to be the most stubborn people in the zodiac and naturally symbolized by a bull) and have high expectations when it comes to being loyal (probably more than Scorpios). I am not much of an astrologer and I am not very good at compatibility reading. You will definitely find some good websites which will talk about this pairing. But from what I know, it is indeed a good pairing. So, go ahead and take a chance :)
Met a Scorpio guy 3 days before he took off traveling. Couldn't help but sleep with him, but he can't contact me unroll his travels are over in 30 days.. My questions: do scorpions cuddle the morning after, make breakfast, kiss you goodbye if they are just using you?? Or are those signs of real interest??And also.. Are they the type of guy that allows distance to let their heart grow fonder? I can't help he's wonder if he's thinking about me after those three amazing days ...I'm a cancer, and I've never met anyone I instantly had THAT kind of chemistry with. It was almost too good to be true, but I don't want to jinx it. He's six years older than me, but I didn't notice a bit:)
I am a arie lady, in love with a scorpion male. We started dating when i was in a long distance relationship with my ex fiance. I told him i was still thinking about reallocating to get married,, but really was not sure. We wer dating then i found him very possesive, and i had to run away from him ignoring him. He stopped calling me and talking to me.
My ex and i broke up. I meet my scorpion crush at a party who told me he still want me.
I ask him if after all i did he still want me. He told me yes. I am in love with him but felt so bad for hurting him.
I have been initiating conversation, i even organise to meet him.. and we spend time together. It was beautiful, romantic, we were laughing, dancing, joking, but we did not speak about the past. we did not have sex because i told him it is not a good idea to have it now.because i did not want to rush thing.
I am still intiating the conversation and we can chat for hours. i am still in love with him and i want to have another chance. I am a Aries women, i hate chassing a guy and would rather want him to initiate, It makes me confuse because im not sure he wants us to have another try.
I feel like giving up but at the same time i really do like him. please help... You told us that scorpion man love their space and want to be chassed.
I have a good feeling he still like me but at the same time i felt as if he want revenge. should i continue chassing him or let it go.
Thank you
fatale: By what I understand, at this point, he hasn't completely got over you and may be finding it difficult to get over you. That's why he still feels jealous and not keen about seeing others. It is really hard for Scorpio men to get over a break up. On the other hand, he also looks confused. This is one thing anyone involved with a Scorpio man should watch out for. I would say it is a not so good place to be in. It is really up to you to take a call on it. It may look like a game he is playing, but as I said, he probably is too confused. So, be wise and take a call as early as possible. Else, it will be lot more difficult to get out of his web.
astra: thank you for reading the hub :)
Dacattack: To be frank, I am really not sure about an answer for the first part of your question regarding cuddling and making breakfast. Seems to me like it is a general relationship related thing. Regarding keeping a distance for the heart to grow fonder, it may be quite possible. We do like our independence as much as we like being close. Because, we may tend to become bored if we have too much intimacy all the time. I have indeed heard that Scorpio-Cancer relationship is a good one, though personally I haven't dated any Cancer women. And trust me, a 6 year difference is nothing for a relationship with a Scorpio person. The girl I like is 5 years younger than me and I still love her. So, I don't think it makes much difference.
Hi,
I met a Scorpio man on a dating site and we texted and talked every day, a week later we met. It was instant full blown attraction. We couldn't stop smiling at each other or looking into each others eyes. I am a Cancer, and from what I have read, that's a very good match. Since that day he has swept me off my feet. He is extremely intense and passionate. He tells me how we would treat me everyday, like a queen, how much he wants me and my heart. He is very strong, I have no doubt he wants me and wants a relationship with me. My concern is, he is so passionate now, will he lose interest after a while, once he gets to know me and that "game" of chasing me is over. I really like this guy and we have everything in common. I can see him in my future and I want everything he has to offer, he is my "dream man". But his intentness is making me wonder if he is a "player". I was always told guy don't come off this strong unless they are after something, sex. He is open and talks to me. He isn't secretive towards me. But he's already talking about wanting my heart and a future with me. Is this normal? I feel like I'm being swept up into a whirl wind and I'm losing control. He is most def a charmer, says everything I have always wanted to hear and he makes me feel so happy and special. I'm afraid this ride will end and I'll be left standing there saying "what just happened, where am I?" Are they all this intense and straightforward with what they want and go after it like this? He told me he would back off if He was to intense for me, but I kinda like it, it just scares me. I'm use to doing the chasing and men being the stand-offish ones. could you please help?
choupicrou-aries: One thing you need to know about Scorpio men is that we love being chased. But if you are saying that he has made absolutely no attempt to initiate the conversation, other than what you do, I think you need to stop a bit and see. I personally think that if there is a healthy relationship, he should initiate at least once in a while. Stop and see if he comes after you. If he really misses you, then I think he will. One thing I have learned the hard way is that, it hurts not to talk to your loved ones, but if the truth isn't obvious, then maintain a distance and see. All the best :)
grneyecancer: It is true that Scorpio men are always intense and passionate about most things. Please don't be afraid of us. Intensity and passion is our second nature.
One thing during initial courtship with a Scorpio male is, not to be available easily. We may fall for you, but we do like a bit of a challenge, at least initially. We also need a healthy distance so that we should have the feeling of "missing you". Once he is really in love with you, the passion will stay. Being a Scorpio guy, I have rarely fallen in love with someone who is too easily available. I am not telling you to play mind games with him (we don't like being played), but just be a bit difficult to get.
It is good that he is not secretive with you. But, we usually don't share our true feelings with anyone openly too soon, simply because we don't trust easily. He may be really liking you or may be just being plain nice to you. Give it some time for the relationship to ripen. Once he sees that you are something who he really wants in life, he will be completely straight forward with you. And as I said, don't be afraid of the intensity :)
so iam a leo woman and ive dated scorpio man before and now i meet another scorpio maybe i just love scorpio men or they love leo women he asked me to be his girl the first day we met. i said yes he told me he only wants me to be happy,so for 2 days we talked ,text now he doesnt replay or call we do have a busy life we both work and go to school full time,i did tell him why he came in to my life now cuse im busy i also told him that i new he was gona come full speed at me and once he had me he would stop ,he told me he hasnt been with anyone for 2 years also before 2 days we new each other he had made plans to see his friend/girl on monday and that he respected me and wanted to let me know and that he wasnt going togo it turns out that at onetime they were friends with benefits i asked him why he wanted to see her he said he was going to borrow some money so i told him i would lend him the money if he wanted cuse now his my bf anyway i would like to hear comments .
Samira1978 - Don't let him borrow money! your just giving him your trust after meeting him. Trust has to be earned! I'm a cancer, I'm very soft hearted and want to help everyone, but I know not to do that. If he needs money, he should contact his parents or work more hours. I'm sorry, but why would a man (with pride) borrow money from an ex flame, a woman at that. Something doesn't seem right to me. Just my opinion tho.
Hey this is a great hub! Lots of helpful information and insight into the mysterious Scorpio mind :)
I just had a quick question and I'd love to hear any feedback. I'm interested in a Scorpio man. He runs very hot and cold, for instance I'll see him almost everyday for a week an then won't hear from him for two weeks and then he'll contact me again. I'm a Sagittarius girl - I'm extremely impatient and I'm getting tired of his games. Just recently a male friend of my Scorpio has started to take an interest in me - when I say 'friend' it's really more of an acquaintance - not someone from his close circle of friends. I don't want to make my Scorpio jealous but I'm just wondering what will happen if he sees me getting attention from this other male? (who happens to be a Gemini) Will he be more
assertive? Or will he back off
completely? I really like this Scorpio guy and I don't want to upset him but I feel like things are moving so painfully slowly that he may not even be that interested in me. The Gemini guy is fun and is strongly pursuing me which feels nice. Help!!??
hey annie if u have a gemini why get with scorp gemini men are mor fun and u a sag girl you fun too scorps are home buddies .
grneyecancer- thx you r right (man with pride)i just read your calumet and that exactly what happen to me the first day we met me and scorpio guy full speed he asked me to be his baby and if i want his heart he give it to me he sees him self sporting me a round , candel light ,cuddling , damn i called him yesturday left him a mssage just to say hi i know you busy ill call u back take care havnt heard anything
Hi Samira1978, I don't have either of them. I had gone on dates with the Scorpio but we weren't dating. The thing with the Gemini is new and I've only seen him when I was out with friends but he texts me all the time. The Gemini is very typical of the guys I usually date - fun, easy going and a bit immature - he is more of a 'boy' whereas the Scorpio is a man. I want a man.
All three of us have been invited to a mutual friends party in a few weeks time so it will be interesting to see what happens.
annie - good luck
im still totally confused ,ive now read literally hundreds of comments on here and other hubs and used it as kind of a guideline,most ppl say scorpio men are straight forward no grey areas ,say they dont stick around if theyre not interested in you ,i stuck around a scorpio man who chased me ive already told the story on this hub ,i stuck around cos i realised scorpio men are complex and i really cared for him too .it was like he wanted to keep me around but never arranged to meet me .i sent him a txt today telling him how i feel and think we need a break cos we are not getting anywhere ,i feel pushed away but thats what i dont get thought scorpio walk away if they dont want you ?? hes more and more distant so even though it really hurt ive taken the stap to take a break but he never replied and dont think ill hear from him again.its been an interesting 4 months and i know alot about scorpio men now ,i still feel love for him but im virgo and know when to call it a day.i have realised another thing that scorpio is the sign for me and maybe one day ill meet one thats got less issues .love to read all the comments on here so many sides to scorpio and their other halves ,very interesting.
I am an Aqua female in love with a scorpion , it is believed that they don't make a good long lasting pair.But i felt great love and chemistry between us ..... also i used both of your links given above and there were most of the positive aspects in our relationship..... what do you suggest ....
suzzi my neice is scorpio and her husband is aquaruis they are both in their mid thirties now and been very very happily married for 12years,they been together 20years ,so yes it works ,good luck x
Scorpio man, need help now. From ten yrs ago i broke up with my male scorpio. Just becuase his family and mine hate each other. I am a scorpio too. I got married and had a kid with no love in this relation. From two yrs ago me and my exhusband got apart and divorced. My ex boyfriend scorpio knew about it and called me back.. He did his best to win me but i always used to bring him back to reality cuz i have a kid and won't get married to someone who never tried marriage..or having kids. At last he convinced me we have to try. I agreed and at that point he admitted that he loves me and wanted me all his past yrs. he started to be more controlling, wants to talk all the time and not give me a chance to say any opinion about anything. I have to obey him. And once we were talking i interrupted him and he yelled telling me to shut up! I hung up the phone and text him to apologize and be kind as before or he wont see me, he started to act cool and say that its not a big deal, i am still not talking to him... I love him and i know that there is some problems in his work made him stressed. But i want him to be sorry. How can i make him get it and admit he is wrong.. Plz tell me
jjpinki- aquaruis women are stronger than the aquaruis men thats why it worked for your niece cuse she is a scorpio she stronger than her husband .
Two weeks ago I think I made a post in here about this Scorpio I've met. Well now I need some advice :(
Cause now he won't talk to me. For the first week he would txt me everyday at 12 asking how my day was, we would talk everyday, I made it clear to him from day one that I don't trust are let anyone in easily, cause at first I wasn't falling for him, and I wasn't going to rush it, but after a while I started to like him and it seemed now that I'm responding back to him , cause one morning he didn't send his regular txt but he did later that day but the next day he didn't and I didn't hear from him for that whole day are next, so I text him and he replied hack right away, it was just this funny picture I send him and all he said was " good morning. " how you doing." I said " lol Awhh boomer lol mecermind" he aske what's was wrong, I said nothing just work. And from that he just stop talking to me and that was three days ago, keeping in mind my damn menstruel was starting up and my emotions were all over the place. I had to text him about a day ago to call me and he did yesterday, we talked for a good 5 mins before he said e had to eat and called me back, he never did, but yet he was online posting. So I text him last night asking " lol what happened to my called back " and no reply since :( he did tell him all the time that he has two different numbers for me saying he has to text me from one while I respond from the other, he even send me a screenshot of it, which i don't know how my phone send him messages on two diff numbers, cause it was 347 before and now it's 917. He's phone is htc n mines iPhone, so
Maybe it's his phone giving the trouble. He said before he tried to call me on one of the numbers before and it wasn't working. And now I feel like calling me but I don't want to chase him, has he lost interest in me, because I was taking to long, he kept making plans about us meeting soon, I said its sound great, we've even joked many times about getting married, we clicks well but I wasn't ready to rush things as yet, I'm trying to figured out if I hurted him are did something wrong but I don't see it. What do I do now ? Call me are wait and see if he does ?
samira ,i didnt realise that ,thanks for that,im finding out more everytime i log on .thats very true my niece is the boss in her house lol .
Thanks jjpinki .
samira1978: I agree with grneyecancer
Annie: Just wanted to check if the Scorpio told you that he likes you? Or has he given a hint that he likes you? Regarding him cold and hot, if you are talking about our mood swings, we definitely have lot of mood problems. But going on and off, yes it is possible too. It is not only a trait for Scorpio men, but also Scorpio women (at least from my personal experience).
jjpinki: I know it is hard to get over a Scorpio. All the best :)
Suzzi: Compatibility is always beyond sun signs. There are lot of other aspects. If you found that these aspects are matching, probably you should go for him :) According to astrology, a Scorpio-Scorpio is a difficult relationship. When I matched mine with my loved one's, there are almost all positive aspects. I am now just waiting for her to change her mind about me from a great friend to something better..
i don't know why to comment
hey author, here is an interesting marriage/true statistics on scorpio man:(thought it might interest you how they fall in love and who in general they choose)
(it also has scorpio women) the results are very surprising:
so it's beyond sun signs
:0 sorry if i rushed to post that.
my internet was being shoddy.
@samira1978, i saw on the list that leo women are no.2 on the top highest for scorpio man. :)
Jan: I don't about the statistics (I am one Scorpio who cannot handle a Cancer or a Leo, but have a best lady friend as a Scorpio. She has been a great support to me in my current situation). But, I do agree that relationships are beyond sun signs.
Can someone help out with my situation please :(. My earlier post is above, Im really in need of some advice :(
Does the love life effects the goals of a scorpion....... I'm equally in love with a scorpion guy..... He is a very passionate person .... He let me in his inner circle....Due to society ,cultural. Norms I am avoiding him because I know it won't work... He wanted to become a surgeon and I want to see him really successful, all his goals to be accomplished ....... I fear I'm neglecting him ..... Will he be able to concentrate on his work? Or shall I text him to make him focus on his goal.... But in that case I don't want him to expect anything from me because i know it won't work ..... I'm in a miserable condition .... Loved someone for the first time in my life ..... Am avoiding the one who truly loves me .... Knowing the fact no one else could take his place ... Family society pressures..... I hate everyone ..... Pls let me know what's going on in his mind I want to see him happy very happy and contented....... What should I do ???? Love him but can't express ...n.. and hurting him hurts me the most:(:'( we worked at the same place and he left for another place because his rotation completed .... After 2 months he showed up and vanished instantly...... Help me.
It is said that scorpion guys are very vindictive and would torture a girl to death who left him ..... I left a scorpion guy who loved me a lot as apparent by his gesture and eyes..... I never made any commitments or said any love thing to him ....... In this case what would be his reaction when he loves someone a lot and the girl is not interested....ill he wait for a right moment to take revenge or torture me or he'll understand and let go or try hard to get me? Waiting
First.. Sorry guys, if I do not reply to all mails. I know there are lot of people who want to know few things, but there are lot of comments here which I may miss easily. Thanks.
Aqua: I think it completely depends whether love life affects a Scorpio man's goals. One thing about a Scorpio male is that once he has decided to do something (even a goal), he will see it through to the end. Regarding other things, I think I know what you are going through. I wouldn't really want to answer it here. But if you can contact me on hubpages, I may be able to give you a bit of guidance (I don't think I can give you guidance as one answer, that's why I am asking you to contact me). I am definitely not a relationship expert, but I think I can help in certain things pertaining to your situation.
LoveVirgo: Sorry, I missed your post, but it was a long one and I had little patience, me being a Scorpio (just kidding). Jokes apart, one thing I can say is that if you made it clear that you like him after being a bit challenging to him, then he may not have lost interest in you. I think at this point, the only thing to be done is being straight with him and tell him what you want. And leave it there. If he wants you, he will come for you. Otherwise, leave him. We do like to play mind games, but when someone is straight with us, most of the Scorpios will take it seriously. So, I think that is what you should be trying now. Hope it works.
Scorpio woman32: Sorry, I am replying to your mail last though I saw it earlier. The reason is that I may need some help from you as well (being a Scorpio woman, I assume you can suggest me how to deal with them). So, if you read this response, please contact me on hub pages.
Regarding your query, unfortunately, we have big ego problems. There are very few Scorpio men who are willing to accept they are wrong. To give you my example, I recently had a fight with my Scorpio girl. There were mistakes from both ends. I assumed certain things that she avoided me and lost my temper. But then, I realized my mistake and apologized to her. Having said that, I still have some ego issues, and thought that she didn't apologize properly for her mistake (though she apologized for being angry with me).
The main thing is this. As you may already know, Scorpios are highly stubborn. There is no way you can tell them that they are wrong, unless they realize it themselves and admit their mistake. And I don't think you will be able to change his mind at this point. See if you can do something to make him realize that what he did was a mistake. The best thing to do in a Scorpio-Scorpio relationship is, forgive each other and move ahead with that relationship. Just hope that both are mature Scorpios.
@karthikkash- Wow. You so described my scorpio. I know he's in love with me for sure then. He left his home in san fran to be with me (Im a cancer). In hawaii we hug and kiss people as a greeting and he becomes very aggitated and jealous. Insanely. He becomes manipulative when we fight and always needs to have the last word, His sting is the worst. However, i am jealous myself at times. He is constantly suspicious that i may be cheating or thinking of an ex or something that i'd never do as he has my total and complete love and loyalty. We have an extreme connection and attraction to each other though not just physically. But when we become one, it is explosive! The suspicious nature and possessiveness and his jealousy in the long run, i may not be able to deal with. But for now i am in love and so is he and we're both willing to work at it....
Congrats HawnyKween :) I am sure you guys know how to work it out.
I have been seeing a Scorpio for the past 9 months or so, and for most of our relationship he has been very intent on keeping his freedom (i.e. sleeping with and seeing other women). Slowly over time, we began spending all our time together, seeing each other every day and nearly every night, having sex all the time and being very lovey. Over and over he stressed to me that he was seeing other people and did not want to be in a committed relationship, but all his actions said otherwise. Eventually, stuff hit the fan, and I found out he had been sleeping with a girl I knew and it upset me, and I said I can't do it anymore, because I am in love with him and want a relationship and can't stand the pain of him having sex with other people. I broke down, and in the midst of calming me down he told me in that moment that he wanted to be monogamous. A week later he freaked out and said he made a mistake, and that he didn't know what he wanted. It turned into a very emotional drawn out affair on both sides, lots of tears and late nights. I told him I needed space to heal and recover. Over the last few weeks he has sent me gifts, left me messages saying he was sorry, and told me repeatedly that his life is not as good without me, that he needs me there. Yesterday I saw him and he told me how much he loves me and that he wants me to be his girlfriend. That he has thought about it and doesn't want to lose me. I'm just not sure what to do -- I love him. More than anything in the world. But I don't want to play this back and forth if it's just some game. I know he as issues with commitment (he has this pattern in past relationships), and he also has said and done a lot of hurtful things in this process. He wants me to trust him but everyone I know thinks I need to walk away. Advice?
ScorpioBlues: I think he loves you. But that won't be enough reason for you to stick around. If this uncertainty keeps going for ever, you will be ruining your life. You both know that he has an unstable streak in relationships. Then it doesn't make sense to stick around. I would agree with your friends. You've got to move on for your own good.
HI Kartik,
Mine is a slightly complicated situation..wondering if you could help from your pespective.THere is this scorpio male who says is madly in love with me. We both are divorcees and I have two kids, whom he apparently dotes on. He is in New York and I in India. He is not bothered abut his parents or mine..says he wants only me and my kids and for me also only he and the kids should be imp.He doesnt want me to speak to any friend about our relationshp too he says they may convince me otherwise. He wants to marry asap and once we are together, we can tell everyone.He says "Im a differet kinda person I cant express but I have too much love in me for you and kids", "you need to understand me" Please just respect me and do what I say." You know what Kartik, I love him too but Im scared will I be able to live up to his expectations??? Also could he be lying about job etc?? Should I ask him to show me his credentials ( I really want to ask him for them) or will he get offended???? He aked me fr my fb password and when we chat he puts the chat off record..Dunnno whats on his mind. Otherwise, he is a very good looking extremely loving & romantic and well placed guy ( if i go as per what he claims) BTW I met him through a collegue .....Lemme know whats your take on this oe
Shania3: It is a long distance relationship you are talking about. And you always need to be extra careful. You can't trust anyone over a long distance unless you have really spent time with each other and known each other. I would say, if possible, meet each other first, spend some time, only then you will know whether you can take it further. Till then, I would advice against trusting anyone completely over a long distance.
Shania3- I agree with karthikkash. I met my scorpio online and had a long distance relationship with him for 6months before he flew out here to meet me. Omg! It was so worth it the first time he came. Then less than a month later he said he couldnt handle it without me and came back. Mines is a happy story so far... BUT be very aware that scorpios are very manipulative. Thats been my experience. Good Luck! I wish u all the best!
I've been in a committed relationship with a Scorpio male for three years. It has been the best and worst of times. We see each other EVERY DAY and have this very loving, nurturing, magnetic bond and an intangible sex life (almost spiritual/tantric).
If I try to avoid seeing him for just one day he makes me feel guilty and pulls me right in. Like you wrote, he wove that web and trapped me, and continues to chase me when I leave him for flirting (intensely) & hanging out with other women behind my back. Like you wrote, he says he flirts with these girls but doesn't care about them and has no intentions of being physical with them.
Recently, it got to a place where we were arguing every day, and he admitted to me he was leaving me for a girl he had been 'seeing'. So I let him leave. But the very next hour he was already blowing up my phone and trying to get me back. It's been a week of this now. Normally, I would cut a man off for good (hello?) but with him I feel like a rat in the eagle's talons. He wants me and there's just no escaping. My problem is pretty much my jealousy over the attention and care he shows these girls. I've tried to set boundaries; I've tried to compromise; I've tried to cut him off, but he comes back for me and I tell him I won't compete with these females (who eat off the palm of his hand)! He says there's no competition.
Still, he talks to them. Still, I leave him. Cycle. Repeat. Ugh.
I've met this Scorpio at work, he's 8 yrs my junior and he's shown signs he likes me, I'm a Libra female btw. And I've been very coolish with him because I don't know whether he's just playing me to keep in my good books at work or he has a geniune interest in me.
He constantly stares at me, I mean stares, he seeks me out at meetings, sits next to me and stares. I don't get his gist really, I read somewhere that Scorpio's flirt when they don't like someone seriously, then my question is why bother flirting, just sends mixed signals.
So anyone got any clues on how to handle this situation, and for the record I do like him as well, but I don't have time for foolish shenanigans with this Scorpio.
newmummy: If he stares at you, it means that he is curious about you. We usually avoid people if we don't like them. Secondly, there is usually a mutual attraction between a Libra and a Scorpio. If you think that you are interested in him, and if you want to give it a shot, make a move and see how it goes. But a word of caution: Be careful before you walk into a Scorpio's web. It is extremely difficult to walk out of it.
Hi,
An update on my new guy. It's now on our third week and it's incredible. He's a Scorpio and I'm a Cancer. He is already telling me he's falling hard for me and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Wants to live with him when he gets his new house and get married one day. Tells me how he's life is so much better with me in it and how happy he is with me. I'm falling head over heels in love with this man. Its like all the pieces of a puzzle falling together effortlessly. We are both on cloud nine and floating on air. From everything I have read so far, it's hard for a Scorpio to fall in love, so why is he falling for me so fast? He tells me how amazing I am, and I'm everything he has ever wanted. Is this all real? Is this possible to be this easy with him being a Scorpio?
I think all Gemini women should stay away from Scorpio men. it's just too complicated. I had a scorpio persue me last year for two months and I finally gave him some interest. He questioned me all the time to see where my mind was, told me I talked too much. I think he thought I was superficial but I fell in love almost very soon although I didn't tell him. They sex was over the top seriously again after two months of talking and flirting. I let him know up front I was engaged and I think it was a game for him to see if he could get me and finally he did. I broke up with my fiance to let him know I was serious about him and then he drops the bomb when he goes home on his next leave he has to see if he can work things out with his baby's mother i'm like what!!!! I played it cool and left although I was deeply hurt and felt so foolish. Then he starts texting everyday and coming to see me everyday and asking how I am and on the outside I'm like I'm fine on the inside I'm like are you serious. I continued to see him for a whole year but I felt horrible because I knew he had a girl at home. Finally 1 year later I stopped talking to him for 3 months and he starts contacting mutal friends asking where I was and why I wasn't talking to him.... I got over the initial anger and called him and told I was okay but was very angry with him so i had to calm myself down before I spoke with him again... He text me now like once a week or every 5 or 6 days to see how I'm doing or as I say to poke at me and see where my mind is as far as he is concerned... Tonight he text me saying I hope noone is getting my stuff, I'm again like seriously u are not talking to me...as if he still has a lock or control over me. I tell him Your stuff is home with your girlfriend... We will forever have a bond and be good friends as long as you like. He text back saying Correct and I say cool.... It's just not worth it, I have no idea what he ever thought or felt about me to this day... To be honest to this day I still have major feelings but it's no need to explain that he will eat it up and feel like he has one, why give him that satisfaction when he has already decided who his true girl is a pisces.....
I've had this scorpio into me for four years now and says so himself he doesn't intend stopping soon, at first I disliked him but now its the total opposite. We can't properly be together as we live in different countries so we decided to date other people while we're apart. I'm very picky when it comes to guys so naturally I've been pretty mia, mr.scorpio on the other hand has been busy. He says he loves me and other relationships to him are just to fill in the empty space I've created until the time comes. Is this normal for a scorpio a scorpio to do? Or just a big scam. Sorry my comment is so long
Also, I forgot to add he asks me dirty requests- I play along. But he doesn't do these things with his girlfriend. I'm astonished and feel used. Might this being he really prefers and loves me or because he knows I have more feelings towards him than his flings so its more likely I will do such things?
grneyecancer: There is usually a great mutual attraction in a Scorpio-Cancer and Scorpio-Pisces relationship. So it could be possible.
Rachelle28: I tend to agree with you. Gemini and Scorpio usually doesn't bond well. There are more chances of fights and heart burns in this relationship. But again, ultimately in a long term relationship, what counts is understanding and trust other than astrological compatibility.
Capricorn4: Scorpio-Capricorn is considered a great pair (even if not in physical chemistry). But considering your situation, don't you think you are in a complicated relationship where there is no commitment? As far as I know Capricorns don't like such kinds of relationships. I think it is more of a matter of general relationship thing than whether it is a Scorpio on the other side.
But to answer your question specifically regarding a Scorpio male, yes, we may sometimes casually date someone just to fill the gap. Here is a BIG secret I will let out of Scorpio men (though I shouldn't be doing it). We Scorpio men are insecure many times if we are not absolutely sure if we are in a stable relationship. And considering that you are in a LDR, he may be even more insecure. See if you can bridge this gap before it is too late.
OH! I love you karthikkash! There it si. The insecurity part! Its like i constantly need to reassure my scorpio that theres no other man in the universe that i love but him (which is true) and when there are men who are more attractive than him around me... he looks at me as if to try and catch me looking! As if! I try to explain to him that i am a woman who is verrry happy with my man but idk.... He still gets suspicious. Sorry for commenting so much but i really enjoy reading what u have to say(:
haha.. thanks for that HawnyKween :) Yeah, we need someone to constantly show that we are the only people in their lives. We are just born that way.
I'm glad you agree,lol.... If I were truly honest with him like he said he wanted, a strong female we would have had arguments, now he just needs to go away before I do give him what he's asking for a full blown arguement, maybe even fist fight. HAHAHA I'm glad you created the blog it was very interesting to read all and better understand his behavior "in general".
My child's father is a Scorpio, i am a Taurus, both very strong personalities,both do not back down,electrifying mix,not sure if life long compatible.
ANALYTIC AMBIGU: A Scorpio-Taurus relation is bitter-sweet. It is as if there are a lot of things they admire about each other and there are a lot of things they hate about each other. Having said that, it is not easy to break the bond in this relation. So, as far as I know, there will be fights, but the relationship will be strong :)I have seen and heard about quite a few successful Scorpio-Taurus pairs.
UPDATE ON SCORP GUY SO HE TEXT ME ON MONDAY WANTED TO HANG OUT AND TALKED ABOUT HIS FANTASYS WHAT HE WANTED TO DO LOOOOL ANYWAY I DRANK BEFORE I SAW HIM SO I WAS ACTING LIKE A DRUNK WE DIDNT FINISH WHAT WE WERE DOING HE SAID I WAS UNATTRACTIVE HE WANTED TO LEAVE I WAS UPSET AND I APOLOGIZED HE KISSED ME AND SAID HE CALL BUT HE HASNT I JUST WANTED TO LOSEN UP AND I WAS TALKING ALOT CRAP SO DID I LOSE HIM I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR WHAT YOU GUYS HAVE TO SAY
HI, Iam so grateful for your help karthikkash Hub, my scorpion man finally contacted me. we went on a date where he opens up, telling me how wrong i do him and that he doesnt trust me anymore. i could not hold it and i burst into tears, i told him i wanted him to give me another chance. Then he said he was in a long distance relationship. he is eager to give us a tried but at the same time he is afraid. I want to let go but at the same time i love him so much. please heeeeeellppp
I have includes below your advise last time so you can remeber my situation
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choupicrou-aries: One thing you need to know about Scorpio men is that we love being chased. But if you are saying that he has made absolutely no attempt to initiate the conversation, other than what you do, I think you need to stop a bit and see. I personally think that if there is a healthy relationship, he should initiate at least once in a while. Stop and see if he comes after you. If he really misses you, then I think he will. One thing I have learned the hard way is that, it hurts not to talk to your loved ones, but if the truth isn't obvious, then maintain a distance and see. All the best
samira1978: I don't think we get upset and leave someone just because we had a fight once. Don't worry, there is nothing wrong (as long as you didn't talk crap about him). He will come back :)
choupicrou-aries: I don't know how much I can help you in this situation. All I can say is that it depends on who he loves more. If he loves her very much (if he is telling the truth), then he will stick to her. But I think it has been a mistake (or deliberate thing from his end) if he already had a LDR and he started going out with you. And I call it cheating. So, you will have to decide how you take it further.
I am a cancer female dealing with a scorpio for over 1.5 yr. I am so lost with him and this relationship than I have ever been. I forgive him so easy like I have never done before & its scares the hell out of me. I am amazed we made this situation ( bc i am lost on whether we are in a relatinship or what) first we agrued agrued agrued & which lead me to shuting him out and dating other ppl while we dated. I know for sure so did he but he always put any of my needs before his own. I have 3 kids he has 0. I am very protective and havnt allowed them to meet. He can be very Closed & distant all in the same manner. I try uo understand him but its so fustration that we alwaya end in agruments bc i dont back down and nether does he. Sometime he make comment like relationship are easy and we have to work hard. But i am so a feared bc we have never meet eachothers families. I woul usually be fine with late introduction especailly bc i am a mother. But with him its scares me to think he might be using me. I have gone over mountains and thru rain storms for him. Sometime we get in really crazy agrument and tells me I need to learn my role as a woman "submission" basically and snap on him and start yelling louder and he eventually will defuse the situation. Does he love me? What is he doing? Why is he so everywhere? I feel like putty in his hands bc i cant resist wanting to be under him during our spare time. Now we've gotten to the piont where he is either here every night or if my kids are away we are at his house.ps. We have each others keys house n cars. How did we get to this point when we started fight all the time and recently when we fight they are big blow ups. I just want security & to know what are we. Another important fact he is a very important new politician in city and this terrifies me.
thx karthikkash -;-)
Took me 7 years to get over my scorpio,didnt think I could.Now I see him the feelings of excitement love and passion are gone.I look at him like another stranger.Do scorps feel hurt when the girl they loved doesn't love them anymore?
There's a Scorpio man that works at my school and I'm unbelievably attracted to him. I don't understand the pull I feel towards him. My bday is June 21 so guess that makes me gemini n cancer? Idk but anyway he always Hows out his way to come talk to me or stop by my table to speak to me. He will even get my attention to say Hi and chat even if I'm not looking his direction. He compliments me often and has recently asked me for my email in a conversation to send me some music but I didn't give it to him and also he indirectly hinted that if I had his contact info I could've gotten help on a transportation issue I was having. He's always friendly, always speaks n always compliments. The other day he saw me talking to another man and the look he gave me actually made me feel guilty that I was talking to him! When I saw him again later he started being extra loud and laughing extra with some other woman. What's he doing? What's going on? Does he like me should I ask him out? I'm sooo interested but very scared bc of what I've heard about scorpios!
@ hummy... im a cancer and i must say that i can feel ur pain because i can relate to ur feelings. we cancerians are so emotional.I will be blunt and to the point. it sounds to me like a lost cause... u are showing so much weakness. Scorpio loves a chase as well as a woman with a little intrigue. Get ur backbone up and tell him u are moving on and do so! i have read that a scorpio man and cancer woman have a connection and will never be able to forget one another. it seems true for u in this case, there are much more men out there who will treat you like u deserve to be treated. Ultimately the decision is up to you. Good luck!
ive come to the conclusion scorpio are not all theyre cracked up to be and just rubbing there ego and sitting them on a pedastal.the one im firends with always says sorry always compliments me and gets upset and says hes hurt when he thinks hes blown it with me but hes doing everything to push me away he opens up sometimes but most of the time distant .maybe virgos dont worship the same as other signs cos it seems even the nasty scorpio men get the ladies pining.i dont deny im still very intrigued and sooo curious as to why he wants to keep me close but not meet me .he says he carries alot of guilt from marraige break up but 2 yrs later he should move on or i will .maybe i just got the dark scorpio no one thinks exists on here .sorry to be blunt but alot of cold ignorant cheating scorpios and they still have u ladies waiting for them ??? why ???? im starting to think the sentance about scorpio needing space is an excuse to treat ppl bad.sorry to be blunt and this isnt aimed at the genuine loving normal scorpios .
HAWNYNKWEEN i agree with ur comments 100% i waited around for my scorpio cos i believed he did need space but over 4 months later n still not met yet he came after me .im still his friend but not sure he,ll stick around now i dont stroke his ego and chase him .
My story started the same as everybody else's. At the beginning i felt it was too good to be true. The connection, the sex, everything. But he started playing mind games with me, i got frustrated then decided to end things beyween us. the decision was very hard for me because not only did i still care for him, i still wanted to be with him, but i could no longer take the mixed signals he was giving me and the constant disappearing act. i had hoped we would remain friends, but he has stopped talking to me completely. i find it juvenial. he's the one that was in the wrong and yet acts like a vicyim. i am flored
I am a Scorpio female, and we have similar traits as the males. Scorpios in general wear our heart on our sleeves so it is hard for us to trust people with our most precious thing and thats our heart. Another thing is that we love very hard, so when we fall in love and it ends, it takes us a long time to get over that previous relationship. We hold on to people that are important to us unless you cross us then it becomes easy for us to let you go. When it comes to love, we can fall in love fast but be to shy to say anything because we hate rejection. So we show our love through our actions. We believe actions speak louder than any words anyway. But our mates have to show us that they want us too. If u aren't willing to put in some work, we not for you but I guarantee the reward is priceless. You won't meet someone more loyal, trustworthy, loving, dependable, and caring person in the world. Its hard to read us because we only show you what we feel hou need to see until we completely trust you then we slowly start pulling back layers of ourselves. We sometimes need space, so don't take it personal if we don't call for sometime, especially if we are going through something. We have to deal with things on our own and if we like you, we will come back around. Scorpios are very emotional, thats why our moods change so fast. The littlest thing can take a wonderful day and mess it up. We don't like to argue, it makes us shut down. We don't like to hurt the ones we love. If we don't care about u, oh well. Just some insight from a Scorpios perspective.
Kaprisun: Wonderfully put. Thanks for helping me :)
papi's-angel: It is hard to get over a Scorpio. But you got to move on.
GeminiCancer: There seems to be signals that he is interested in knowing you more. Why not ask him out and see? But as I always say, please take it slowly with a Scorpio. It is easy to fall in love with a Scorpio easily, but extremely difficult to get out.
saglover: Yes, Scorpios do get hurt when someone they love doesn't love them back. And trust me, it hurts deeply then any other sign in the zodiac. Whether they will hate you for that or not, it is up to them. But they will always remember you till the end.
jjpinki: My response to some of the things you mentioned. Yes, there are both bad and good Scorpios. Unfortunately, when you fall for a Scorpio, you won't know whether he is a bad or a good one. Only later you will realize. Hope you find a good one though. Regarding us requiring some space, please understand that it is not an excuse for treating someone bad.
We really need our space. The simple reason is that we like to deal with things ourselves and we need to do it without anyone interfering in that, not even our closed ones.
If we hate someone, we will sting them and ignore them or just simply ignore them. That means we simply stop talking to you.. Probably forever. But if he is near you, he is just dealing with something which he is probably unable to explain (we are also very bad at expressing ourselves verbally). It is a bittersweet relation with a Scorpio, especially for a Virgo, but if you want to have him, you just need to try to understand him.
thanx again ,i do get very annoyed with him but hes not letting go so im going to hold on,the more comments i read the more i understand and its true u are all alike its spooky .kaprisuns comments very helpful too .my scorpio man isnt bad ,my comment was about the ppl who hang around waiting for guys/girls that are with someone else and jumping from one to the other .i do still think scorpios are the best :0)
Kaprisun, idk about scorpio wearing his heart on his sleeve.... my man can seem so cold at times but i know its just him shutting down because he's hurt or something. Depends on the situation. But u basically also described a cancer(:
Except we cancers dont have stingers, we have claws.
hi, i have a question, why would a scorpio guy ask about some girl (about whether she got prettier and her whereabouts? AND He is not friends with her, IS HE INTRESTED IN HER OR SOMETHING? or is he just being friendly, or a player? is this normal for a scorpio,because he got mercury in libra and the moon in aries so i think that he is more expressive than the average scorpio man, can you please help me understand.
Quick question, I've been interested in this scorpio for about 7 months. He's very elusive. Recently we've picked up the conversation again with plans to get away next weekend. I go on facebook this A.M to see that he has posted on this girls page (they had a very heavy past and I know he loved her) that he's going home soon (not our get away but a different one) and she should meet him!! I was LIVID, but we're not too serious so I don't feel like I can confront him. My question, is this bad behavior that I should call him out on, or does he have no "real" interest in me and should I just leave it alone and move on? How do scorpios react to being called out, and I over reacting? It just seems so tacky of him to do that knowing I might see it.
Just to add; we've only been on 3 dates in 7 months, talked very sporadically. We're not committed to eachother but I would like be.
How do you tell if a Scorpio is serious or not in love? I work with a Scorpio who appears interested - he's flirty, has singled me out as someone he'd like to get to know ie made all the approaches etc, and exhibits all of the Scorpio jealousy, he was wary of a male college friend who was also a colleague and glared this evening when my friends little brother gave me a lift home. Is he serious? Or will Scorpio's do this for less? I'm not sure how to take it
Yeah i should move on, i cant seem to get him out of his shell. After tyring for weeks, i finally sent him an email expressing my feelings about him not talking to me. It was an honest email, it came from a good place. But he saw it as an insult and got really pissed at me. I responded by telling him I wasnt insulting him and didnt mean for it to come off that way. I basically said my goodbyes to him right there and then bcoz he had insulted me in his response. I didnt think we would ever speak again, but a week later, he contacted me. Just saying "Hey", testing the waters i guess. I responded, he then asked where i was, i told him, then the response i got was "ok"....thats it....
I sent him an sms a week later telling him I had been in a restaurant that reminded me of him. he never responded but called me the following day. He told me he was responding to my sms of the previous night. I asked him where he was driving to at night, he told me he was going home from a meeting. I got the impression he wanted me to ask him to pass by my place. When I didnt, he asked am I sure I do not want to ask him something. He then started saying "going once, twice"..... In a panick, i said jokingly "Ai, calm yourself". I guess that pissed him off, he rushed off the phone promising he'd call the next day, but I could tell from the tone of his voice that he wasnt going to call. I then asked him via text 2 days later if i had offended him somehow, he responded with a "No, not at all.Keep well". I havent heard from him since then and he is ignoring me again.
Its unfortunate, but i do believe letting go will be best. I do wish we could remain friends. We were friends before dating. I am a Pisces female.
Hi Karthikkash, i really like this friend who is a scorpio. Can I ask him direct to be my boyfriend? What should I say to him? and how should I start?
larabebo : It may be that he is interested (not necessarily "like") in you. If you are interested in him, why not take it further?
SG: If you are serious about him, better ask him out. He may not have taken your date seriously (7 months and just 3 dates is not really dating, is it)? I would say not to confront him, but gently remind him of your date. And I think it really depends person to person if a girl asks a guy out. I am one Scorpio who openly says that I like to be asked out than the other way round. I have seen different girls interested in me from time to time and only 1 or 2 have really asked me out. I definitely don't consider it a bad behavior. And times have changed. I think that if a girl likes a guy, she should simply ask him out. I honestly think that a girl necessarily asking a girl an outdated idea.
arieshermit: If he is showing more attention, then he may indeed be interested in you. If he is simply flirting around, he will be flirting around with most of them.
papi's angel: Yes, better move on. Honestly, some times it is good for Scorpios to mature, many just don't.
princess: Even in a general relationship, how can you ever ask a good friend to be your boyfriend directly? Ask him out, see if he is interested in you or you can create some interest. Only then once if you feel that there is a mutual attraction, you can tell him your feelings :) Now, how to attract a Scorpio is an entirely a long conversation, and I am really not the right person you should be asking for conversation starters. All I can say is, be genuine and be a bit mysterious to him. That is a good way to start. All the best.
Thank you so much Karthikkash.
I am a scorpion woman with extremely energy to make a better world, a doctor, adventurous and full of passion and I reject most of guys who seem weak and unable to defeat my self and my background. Now I met a scorpion Guy, defeat me in every way, beyond me in every wealth, intelligent, career, strong, powerful, extreme emotion Scorpio who will never let me slip from his hand. Our relationship is too intense,exciting but often too stormy and danger. Could this two strong character survive for long? He already ask me for marriage and I have no answer to say no. I just wonder if our relationship can be success.
Thank you! Just to clarify, when you say "ask him out" do you mean ask him to be my boyfriend, like exclusively? You rock! You should start your own advice column, lol!
I've known this scorpio for 4 years, a little over a year ago we've become friends with benefits. Just over a month ago, for the first time,he's asking more about my husband and I (failing marriage) and I opened up. He's been seeing this woman since last August, but keeps telling me she's "a woman he's dating". We've been more intimiate for almost 2 months now.. (no longer casual) Last week he mentioned I should go out on his boat sometime.. when I said "oh yeah?" he chuckled.. seemed shy. During sex one time he blurted out "I love you" and threw a nother word in there.. is this true?
Alexandra: The guy who can match a Scorpio girl in everything is a Scorpio guy only (sorry, don't mean to downplay other sign guys, but this is a fact). He is the most powerful, emotional, passionate and loving guy you can get. That is one reason why I get attracted to Scorpio women since we are just so similar. Having said that, the negative side is that they are too similar even in the negative traits. That could be a potential danger (jealousy, possessiveness, lack of trust etc). The relationship can be extremely wonderful or extremely dangerous. To make it work, there are a couple of things both Scorpios need to learn. Firstly, both are dominant and hence, should learn to give up control by taking turns. Secondly, both need to understand that the jealousy and possessiveness is just a sign of love (albeit, extreme love). Thirdly, never let fights escalate. Scorpios love each other so much that minor tensions and fights will be easily overcome. But if it is wrong fight, then both will sting each other. Also, make sure you give each other enough breathing space. And when you are sad or feeling bogged down, please talk.
Just to give you an example, there has always been open communication and wonderful trust between me and my girl I recently asked out (she is a Scorpio and my best friend). We also had a bad fight, but within a few days, we reconciled and our relationship (we are not yet dating) and it is so wonderful. Hope these tips help. Congratulations and all the best :)
I met this Scorp guy (I'm an Aries btw) in January off of a dating site and went on a date with him. Then I basically ignored him for 4 months, and would get texts from him every week to meet up or to just say Hi and see how things were going. Last week he and his friend picked me up for drinks. All of us had a lot of fun. He was talking about how he could never be with a girl that didn't get along with his friends, etc. When his friend got up to go to the bathroom, my Scorp guy stole his friends seat so he could sit next to me. We all went back to his place to watch a movie, and his friend just hovered around till I grabbed the seat next to his Scorp friend. Anyways, the night ended. When my guy got home from dropping me off he told me I was awesome and he had to see me again. Next phone conversation 2 days later he had told me that he was glad he was talking to me and not any other girls. That caught me off guard. He was asking me about school and how much longer I had there (we go to the same school) because he wanted us to take a class together. He asked about when I was transferring to another college for the medical program, and let me know where he would be at that time. I thought that was kind of weird. Anyways, we went on another date this past weekend and slept together because the chemistry was crazy. He complimented me afterwards and was very affectionate and cuddly and stroked my hair. He wants to go on another date, and continue to be physical. We discussed how we view marriage as sacred and how people just give up too easily, and that when you find that special person, marriage is forever. Anyways, he had to be at work in 4 hours when he dropped me off at 3am, but we still kissed in the car for 45 minutes. I'm trying to figure out if this is just a blooming friendship with benefits or a developing potential relationship. And I should probably let you know he has told me that he had been on dates with other girls before (idk how long ago) where he just up and left because they were liars or they were just unattractive to him..... and he said he was glad I didnt fit into either category. Did we sleep together too soon (its was 4 months after we met, but 5th date)?
SG: Ask him on a casual date. Just show him signs of interest.. Don't ask him to be your boyfriend yet. Have a couple of dates and see if he reciprocates to your interest. It is very difficult to move from a friend zone to a boyfriend (from my personal experience).. And trust me, I am extremely bad at relationship advice. As I said earlier, I myself am in need of advice :)
SadieQ: I have absolutely no idea how to give any suggestion in your case. I may not be the right guy to ask either. I hope our other readers can help you here.
AriesGirl: Why not just ask him where your relationship is going?
Great hub! I'm a scorpio and I must agree with some of what you've written. Voted up
thanks karthikkash. It seems to be just me. :D are there any major don'ts with scorpio? I'm an aries so its rather an explosive combo...lol
Nicole 2 months ago
I agree I'm so confused about a Scorpio guy I'm seeing. He's great when we are together but he is so hard to read! I don't get it. It makes me feel like he's not interested